Hi Ladies,
For those who have had planned pregnancies, how did you know you were reading to start trying? How old were you? We aren't ready yet, but have been talking about it. I'm curious to hear others experiences :-)
Planned pregnancies
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I think for me I had a checklist in mind, it kind of goes like this
Am I and my partner coping emotionally
Are we coping financially
Are we getting a long (are there deep issues that need to be worked on)
Are we both behaving like grown ups (eg are either of us out partying with there mates too much, spending money like we are single)
Have we discussed what would happen when a baby arrives (eg who will stay home and how long for, how will the finances work eg partners money will have to pay everything and no longer go 50:50)
Do I really like this person enough that I want to be tied to him for the rest of my life?
Would me make good parents?
I didn't apply this checklist to my first child as he was a total surprise. I did apply it to the decision about wether to have more children. Other than me being an awesome parent, I totally failed my checklist so didn't have more :)
All 4 of my pregnancies were planned, like super planned. My age gaps are 24mths, 22mths and 24mths. We fell pretty much straight away with all 4 (the longest took 2-3mths).
We decided 27 was a good age to start which was good in hindsight as we eventually decided 4 was our magic number any later and it really would have squashed our big family dream as I wanted to be finished having kids by 35max (just my own personal goal)
I had worked previously and we had saved lots of money, had bought 2 houses before we had kids so were in a good position money wise. Both of us didn't want me to have to go back to work so that was also a factor. We talked a lot about our expectations re kids/discipline ect. We had finished our party ways and ready to settle down. We had joint bank accounts and continued that (my oldest is almost 6 and I'm due soon with #4). Lots of communication and hard work is the key.
FYI- my hubby was never ready to have kids (well sorta not ready, he was just scared that we weren't financial enough) I made that decision, but he was happy to go along with it. We met when we were 19/20 and are now 33/34, so lots of time to get ready. I had a plan, married at 25 kids at 27 which worked perfectly for me.