So...my story. My doctor suspects PCOS without textbook symptoms. This has just hit me like a tonne of bricks after spending months telling myself that "maybe it's not PCOS" and I can do it on my own. DH & I have been trying on and off for a baby since January. And this might sound weird but I am grieving the loss of a non complicated conception. My husband is wonderful but I know that he is going to find this process really hard and I just dread it. He's already (only been fully trying for a month-being intermate most days instead of just 2-3 times a week) started saying things like "just don't stress and it will happen." We've been having fun with it up until now, but after mistakingly finding out I have high levels of oestrogen I suddenly feel like I've got no chance. My family has never pressured me but I still feel pressure with everyone around me and most close friends pregnant with their second baby. I just feel like crawling under a rock at the complicated and timely process I'm about to go through....doctors appointments, diets, medications, testing, not to mention the financial stress. Ive always been one to look at the positives but just feel so sad. I feel like I've failed my husband and now he has to go through this shit process because of me. I'm so freaking sad. Trying to tell myself it could be worse.
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I have PCOS and it took me a little over a year (luckily we fell naturally and got to cancel the appointment to start fertility treatment). I put it down to a little weight loss and a holiday. Your husband sounds like he is more than happy to "keep trying" and as frustrating as it is "don't stress it will happen" isn't bad advice. Get massages and look after yourself, give your body a chance to do its thing. A PCOS success story was posted yesterday on this side.
I also have PCOS and I am currently 14 weeks pregnant after TTC since last August. Don't be upset with him saying don't stress it will happen because it WILL and if you are thinking into it to much it will impact on you falling believe me I stressed myself out big time and the moment I relaxed and we decided to book a holiday and stop trying for a while I was pregnant and didn't know. My lovely holiday overseas is booked for the exact time that my baby is due. Some questions for you.. Do you get a period? Have they tested if you are ovulating? Have they tested your bloods? Have you had a GTT test to check your blood sugars? Have they tested you for insulin resistance? If you are insulin resistant I highly recommend going onto Metformin Extended Release at least 1500mg dose daily and persisting with the side effects. They can be horrible but I have no doubt that they are the reason I fell pregnant. Good luck xx
Thank you so much for your comment. Since writing this, I have been formally diagnosed with PCOS. I have had a mountain of tests and am now taking Letrozole, provera and metformin. (Just started Metformin yesterday). Your reply has given me hope, thank you. Fingers crossed. xxx
Dietary changes are a big help! Look at naturally lowering your insulin and try to do regular exercise.
Goodluck!
this was me a few years ago. But much more complex. I had 3 miscarriages, and they wouldn't investigate until after the third. My miscarriages were unrelated to PCOS. But found out i had PCOS after 3 miscarriages, it turns out i had PCOS, without textbook symptoms as well, which meant conceiving in the first place was difficult enough, let alone keeping the babies. My advice - loose 5% of your body weight in a really short period of time (2 weeks) I was an average 70kgs (quite tall, size 12 back then), first time was probably a fluke, second time was the tomato soup diet for few days, probably lost 2 or 3 kgs, joined a bootcamp that month too, and third time we packed up and moved to another country in a very short period of time - no time to eat, lots of stress... bam... pregnant. Unfortunately lost all of those pregnancies over a period of two years. Finally had lots of tests, turns out i have a blood clotting condition and thyroid issues only present in pregnancy, as well as the ultrasound which showed PCOS and i can't remember the other things that contributed to ticking that box too. Went on metformin - diabetic drug which helps with insulin (do not have diabetes at all), successfully conceived within 2 months, started other medication (unrelated to PCOS) and we now have a 2 year old. Late last year, i started training with a personal trainer, 4 times per week, lots of stress. fulltime work, mum of a toddler etc etc, still breastfeeding and conceived naturally in January this year... was very very surprised as i couldn't start metformin til i stopped breastfeeding and i wasn't willing to if i was only going to be able to have 1 baby. Now due with number 2 in a couple of weeks. PCOS is frustrating, but at least you don't have to go down the IVF path. Sending baby dust!
Thank you so much for your comment. I am 170cm and 53kg, so losing weight would leave me malnourished (not textbook symptoms). I am now on Metformin, took my first pill last night, hoping this helps. Fingers crossed. Thank you for your story, gives me hope like you wouldn't believe. :-)