I've been hit up with a rather large bill for "services" from FIL and SIL. Before receiving help, nothing was mentioned that payment would be expected, now were being asked to pay several hundred for their time after selling some stock.
We've previously sold the same stock on two other occasions and haven't been asked for anything, but now they have received our settlement into SIL account and they are refusing to release out money unless we agree to pay them a share.
Im talking a few hours from their day, we havent gained anything and sold our stock at a huge loss. Weve never asked anything of them and have done 10 times more for them than they have ever done for us and not asked (and would never) for a cent in payment.
How could they even ask I'm not sure. Is this normal family expectations and what should I do? Its causing major rift between DH and I and i feel at this point they can keep my 000s if it means i anever see these ppl again.
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I am sorry but these people are your DH family. How can you expect to never see them again? Your DH happiness comes before your resentment of them. Talk to others to get the resentment off your chest and then let it go for your partners sake. I have been very hurt by my in laws in the past, went and spoke to a counsellor and moved past it for my husbands sake. My love for him and his happiness was far more important than my hurt and resentment of them. It wasn't easy but was the right thing to do for our family. Please don't let them spoil your relationship with your partner.
Stock is cattle and check came in SIL name by accident. It was the balance after yard fees transport etc. They said they transfer our money back to us once it clears, now they are holding it ransom until we pay them for their time. We then agreed on an amount and now they want even more. We've sold at a massive loss ad they're asking for more than what they would make in a week working in their normal job.
If the check was in SIL name by accident and meant to come to you, have the cheque cancelled and reissued correctly.
Failing that, I guess money is not worth your relationship with hubby, so talk to him and work out what you can both live with. Family sucks :( greed sucks :(
Thankyou everyone for your advice. Transport and yard coats already take before cheque was issued. Farm is a family hobby farm but the cattle were ours. Weve helped them with their sheep and goats, fencing, renovating and never asked for a cent in return. Its family. They are wanting us to reimburse their time to drive down to rhw farm(were all from the city but they drive down eveey weekend anyway) to their own home, pay 3 days labour for no more than 3 hours and hubby did most of the work in 2 hours ontop of shouting their lunch in thanks. Im just over these people, so is hubby. Thank you everyone for your help, much appreciated. Hugs n kisses to you all.
If u can afford to go without the $$ id tell em to shove it. Inlaws or not that's just ridiculous. I've been in similar situation and told my mum I'd sue her if she didn't return my money within 30 days, I gave her the paperwork n walked out. Don't care if its family or not its ridiculous what's been asked.
if hubby doesn't like it tell him to find a way to get money back without all the hassle. Otherwise screw them.
you teach ppl how to treat you. Your simply reacting in a way that is best for ur family. I'd be pissed too.