My partner likes to occasionally dress up in ladies underwear (wear a bra etc sometimes when we have sex). We have discussed it and he has said he just likes the feel and it turns him on wearing the material, he know im not really a fan of the situation but I know he likes that he can be honest with me about it. Does anyone else know of ppl that are similar? He is definitely not interested in men so i do believe he just likes the feel, but i still find it a bit unusual. Thoughts?
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This isn't that rare men just cover it up usually. I worked as a set worker and this was quite common. It might be more concerning if he likes to dress in women's clothes too not just undies and bra as this is more a sign of gender identity problems. Good luck I know it's a bit awkward for you
My ex loved stockings, panty hose etc, would wear them, and want me to wear them. He also used to mastrubate into them. It never bothered me it was totally harmless. I found it cute. We broke up but not because of the that.
Working in the sex industry I can tell you... THIS IS NOT UNUSUAL. I have had clients who want to wear stockings, ladies underwear, like to be spanked to achieve climax etc.
It takes a very strong person to be able to handle ones fetishes and have it not affect them mentally. Though something like that is very mild compared to some of the things I have seen/done.
I think you need to take a step back and assess this situation. Is it happening every time you have sex? If not then it's possible it could just be a guilty pleasure, and as his partner you should be able to accept this. Everytime? Is it affecting your mental health or ruining sex for you? Then it should definitely be discussed, it could for me at least even be a deal breaker.
My partner loves to be spanked during sex. In fact I would say it happens every time we have sex. It's the only way I can make him come, otherwise that man could last at least an hour non stop. It doesn't affect me mentally or make me look at him differently, so it would never affect our relationship.
This is obviously upsetting you so it needs to be put on the table and openly discussed and although I REALLY hate to make you think of this but if he can not get it with you, there is a slight possibility he might go somewhere else to live out his fantasy.
Did you know that an underwear company has just brought out a line of bras and underwear for men? Makes you think... It's really not that uncommon ;)