My son is 4 and has nappy rash from night nappies. My partner is not his father but we have been together for almost 3 years. Last night I was out before bedtime abd asked my partner to put cream on his bum before bed and he refused abd said no way was he creaming his bum. Am I right to expect him to put cream on my sons bum even though it's not his kid? (he never did day nappies either)
Partner refusing to cream nappy rash
Partner refusing to cream nappy rash
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Haha he should do it, but he obviously doesn't want to so I'd let this one go.
Teach your son how to put on the cream himself and washing hands etc afterwards, my daughter learnt from a young age so I didn't have to make my partner feel awkward doing any of those jobs, I think that once they get past the 1 year old stage I felt my parnter got quite grossed out by nappies and private areas
I'd let this one go too. Personally if he isn't comfortable touching your kids bum that should be respected.
I would let it slide and teach your son how to do the cream and ask your partner to help him wash his hands. I can understand why your partner would be reluctant, have you seen 'big daddy', the bath scene with the child in togs and he says "why do I have to wear these" and Adam sandler says "I don't know what the rules around bathing are" (or something like that lol). I see this as one of those situations, where he doesn't want to cross any personal boundaries and feels it could be unacceptable for him to do it.
I'd teach your son to do it himself. If he was a baby I'd maybe expect your partner to do it but he's not, he's more than old enough to do it himself.
He's old enough to wipe his own bum so he should be applying the cream to he's own bottom :)
my husband never did nappies wet or poopy ones just wasn't his thing, he has a weak stomach and would try reach with number 2's lol... so I never pushed it, I knew the day would come and he would have to deal and just do and that day came 12 months ago when I went away for a weekend away with girlfriends and he stayed home and did daddy duties. both our kids are now daytime toilet trained and eldest is also night time trained. what I'm getting at is that your son is 4 he is likely daytime trained so one would expect he should be able to apply his own cream and then get your partner to help wash hands. I wouldn't be getting to upset about it.