A few months back my partner was diagnosed with depression he is currently medicated and has seen a psychologist twice and regular check ups with a gp, but I feel each and everything week he is slowly getting worse and I'm so lost today he text me saying he finds it so hard hiding how he really feels at work and how much of a effort he has to make at work to pretend to be happy I don't know why but this message just broke my heart if it was me I feel like I could be open to other work colleagues but I understand for him as a man its so hard to open up especially to other men he works in a all male environment so everyday he's fighting with this battle and not able to express himself 12 hours of a day while at work. I love him so much and not being able to help or say the right things breaks my heart into a million pieces I want everything to be normal again and I'm so afraid that it will never be like that again I have never opened up to him about how I feel cause I'm afraid that he will feel bad or feel like it's all his fault I'm sad and that's the last thing he needs. We live in a pretty remote town so our services are limited his GP just gives him the scripts and pretty much waves him goodbye and his phycologist has so far just told him to have more fun go out and drink with mates and told him to book with him whenever he feels like he needs too I feel like she really has no interest in his wellbeing being a male he won't chase her up and I've been asking him over and over again to book back in with her or we need to find someone else but as far as I know she is the only one in town ? anyone that has been in the same situation know of ways how to talk/cope with a partner with depression and websites/phone numbers or even any mental health workers who do telecom appointments just anything??? I'm so broken the person I love with all my heart is hurting and tells me he feels worthless and no matter what I say I feel like he won't ever believe me I've read as much as I can on the Internet but feel like I still just don't understand even slightly what he's going through ? I'm guessing I'm asking if it's possible for things to get better for him? Cause so far no one has told us it's going to be ok!
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Go to the beyond blue website. They offer distance counselling. Also ring lifeline to see if they have other suggestions. Make sure you organise yourself some counselling too! Because you are going to need someone to vent to.
Get his GP to test his testosterone levels. My grandfather had depression and low testosterone. He started getting injections of testosterone and it helped him immensely.