It's just another weekend my partner (30) has gone out again to a mates for "quite drinks and footy" with the I'll be home around 11.30 - 12 ish. His already been out this week twice until at least 12 or later.
What annoys me is he never makes contact , happens to always come home late, rarely calls or texts and certainly doesn't reply to my calls or texts. Tonight I thought I might save an argument by calling and seeing if he'll be home when he said he will be.
I'm 13 wks pregnant and we have a 5 year old. He never takes us out, he says it's no place for us but whys that make it a place for him?
I'm 24 and basically have no social life. I have every reason not to trust him as he always goes out and never comes home sometimes not until the next day.
I've expressed how I feel about this and it seems to fall on deaf ears how would other women tackle this behaviour?
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I would leave. He is not a partner. He is a guy who doesn't want you to know who he is and what he us doing. He is behaving like a single bloke.
be 100% raw with him, is he gonna step up and be a husband/father or is he gonna go out with mates?
yeah its nice to have a break, but not if its all the time and you never get a break!!
Men just don't seem to understand and you are not alone . My husband has been doing the same, saying he will be home for dinner and then coming home at 2-4am and doesn't return call or texts or says he will be home "shortly" and then is back homr hrs later. I have tried talking to him and it turns into but you just don't want me to go out and I'm like no I want you home at a respectable hour and not so drunk you end up sleeping all the next day as well. We haven't gotten close to resokving this.
My husband did this too.
He had been going to strip clubs, prostitutes and having an affair with another woman for over 7 years and had a child with her. Always suspected something fishy but never had any solid evidence until along came a paternity test request via registered mail that I signed for one day when he was at work and I was home looking after giving birth to our 4th child who was two weeks old.
Destroyed me.
Trust your gut feeling. It is always right. I ignored mine and I'm still paying for it.
I was in this situation and tired of arguing and being left alone every weekend. This went on from early my first pregnancy until bub was 6 months old. I packed up and left, went to my parents house for a few weeks and didn't go back until we had thoroughly talked things out. He knew after that that I would leave and take his child and that he needed to pull his weight and actually be there for us. 5 yrs later we're now married with baby number 2 on the way ☺