Hi firstly I am a 23 single mother with one 4 year old child. I have lived at my current residence for 6 years. nearly 2 years ago an older man moved into the flat across from me.
His a lovely lonely man, and I make the effort to say hello and stop for a chat and help where I can with technology as he does me if I have any trouble and need any maintenance done.
However it has been becoming increasingly frustrating that he quite often has to know my every move, I cant take the rubbish with out being met half way and feeling obligated to stop and talk for an hour, I go out if i'm home late he asks where I have been and what I was doing, previously he has a lot to say about my child's father now ex and often pry's into that area and makes snide and nasty remarks about the situation, I understand why but what I do with my life is my life and what I think is best. Last week I had a friend come over and was unaware he was listening to our conversation until the next day when he said oh I heard that gorgeous giggle and new it was "friends name" and just had to come to the door to listen. WTF what even? Its gotten to the point I can't even feel comfortable bringing someone over for any reason. I'm a private person I value my privacy and this is starting to drive me crazy and making me feel depressed (something I already am diagnosed) He questions my child about his daily activities, if his been and seen his dad (which he doesn't agree with me letting my son do, my ex and I had a bad relationship but his still my sons father)
I have no idea how to tell him to mind his business. HELP.
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Argh sorry this guy has stepped over the line. People like that often put a higher value on the relationship than you do, so have no idea they are doing anything wrong.
I would start by giving him the brush off for now. So if he is waiting for you to get home, just say sorry I'm in a rush can't chat now. Do that for awhile and if things don't get better then just tell him it's none if his business when he asks inappropriate questions or as situations arise.
I feel awkward and irritated just reading this! how annoying for you! You will have to put him in his place. Next time he makes a comment you do not appreciate. Sternly say well, I don't believe thats really any of your business. And if he tries to have a long chat to you while your putting the bin out just cut him off and say you are really busy and dont have time to chat. Some people are just really annoying and dont realise when they are being a giant pain in the butt and need to be told. You will just have to be blunt around him. If he questions you for being blunt just tell him you felt uncomfortable with him prying into your life all the time. If hes offended, he'll get over it. Gotta put yourself above others sometimes!! :):)