I'm negative, bitter, jealous. There are some justifiable reasons, but it's consuming me. What are real, good exercises that you know of to become more positive and peaceful and happier? (Aside from see GP, therapist etc) - has anyone beaten this mindset?? Does anyone feel the same?
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I haven't completely beaten it but I've gotten a lot better. I was very jealous of other people and became quite bitter toward people. Eventually I realized It was my own mysery to act out towards other people, and I was jealous of what they had. I had to learn to be happy with my own looks, my own personality and my own life. I did that by starting to take care of how I looked, I excercise daily not only to look good but to help get rid of frustrations and it helps with the sadness. I dress well and get my hair done. I look in the mirror and tell myself "I look good today" and if I feel like I dont. Everyday I stop and take 5 mins to literally talk to myself. I tell myself what I am grateful for..."I am grateful for my health, I am grateful for my children, I am grateful to have great shows to watch". Hahaha I know it sounds stupid but honestly It is the main thing that has worked wonders for me. Even if you only have small silly things to be grateful for. When something good happens to someone else I think in my head "that's nice for them, hopefully wonder day that will happen for me". You literally have to train your thoughts to be positive, it takes a long time. Also try and do something in your life your proud of, set goals and work on them. And remember the grAss isn't greener on the other side. Make the best of what you have. Good luck
Wow what great advice. This isn't my post but I will take some of your advice to use in my own life, thank you
I think Im one of the happiest, most content people in the world despite being in a situation most people would find very difficult. Its a mind set, its a conscious decision I make every day to make the most out of my life. I remind myself that I don't know what goes on behind other peoples closed doors. The other thing is I know there is ALWAYS someone worse off than myself and that I'm extremely lucky to have food on my table, be able to pay my bills etc. Set a timer to ring every hour and when it rings think of three things your grateful for.
I found writing down everything I am grateful for, once a day I write one thing I am grateful for be it my children or the sun, I put it on a post it note and stick it In a diary it's all colourful and bright that way. There is a lot of changing your thinking to, instead of I wish I had what ... has, smile and say "wow that is great". Look at yourself in the mirror now repeat "you are beautiful, you are smart, you are everything you need to be at this time". There is a movie called "I am" it has really opened up my eyes, it taught me about less competition and more compassion, less materialistic and more happiness, the importance of caring. I used to get so jealous of people who had the perfect family, house and car, a white picket fence life, now I realise I want a rainbow fence with sparkles, my story and my writings I am at peace with knowing I have everything I need the wants are going to make me happy, be that another child, a partner or a big house and flashy things I can make myself happy and those things are bonuses.
I feel just like this! I'm loving the advice. I only wish I had some to give although knowing you're not alone might help :)
Get a journal and with the new year, start each day writing ONE thing you are grateful for..... even for waking up ... add a new item each day...seems simple enough, but wait until you get to month 3 and month 4, etc., and find yourself waking up and wondering just what you are grateful for to add to your list..... I also say "thank you" for waking up each day.... Keep the list...review it often ....and before you know it...you realize just how much we have to be grateful for. I've even written "grateful for this damn sore back....it proves I'm alive and still moving along"... Happy New Year.