Hey IMs
I think i'm going CRAZY!!! i feel like such a bad mother....what kind of mother can't stand her own child crying.....ME!!! i'm at a loss, i have done everything i can possibly think of to stop or ease my 11 month only daughters crying. i used to be fine with it, it never bothered me but recently (last few months) every single time she cries i get angry, upset, stressed, i shake and can't keep still through the anger...i have never and WILL never hurt my daughter but how can i stop feeling this way? how can i stop her crying every second of the day? i've tried talking to family, friends and my partner but they think i'm being over the top and just need a good sleep....I DONT!!! i just need to stop the crying.
Thanks for your help and advice in advance.
your truly,
a truly stressed out mum :(
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My daughter is one that cries at a drop of a hat aswell we where at a loss of what to do aswell till she started kindy last yr. her school has a thing about emotions and worries they call it big worries ( when ur bleeding a really hurt ) and little worries ( when something doesn't go the way u want it to) we have found it works really well and she has gotten better as she's understanding she doesn't have to cry about everything perhaps try something like this, but it does take awhile for them to understand the difference between big worries and little worries. Now when she cries we ask her if it's a big worry or a little worry, 99% of the time it's a little worry and once we can get her to stop crying we help her solve her problem.
I don't have any advice but I definitely feel for you. My son (14 months) continuously cried for 5 days last week, which was unlike him. It's was exhausting and I too was getting angry aswell. I took him to the GP and he had a throat infection. Didn't I feel like a shit mum :-| chin up mummy, we all know how you're feeling and I really hope it passes soon :(
It is hard... I used to follow wonder weeks as I used to find it really helped to understand what was happening developmentally with them - IMO at that age they don't cry for no reason. The other thing is i found when my DD would get cranky/emotional she just needed a bit more stimulation so used to do lots of play at Chipmunks, park, beach so maybe a few more outings? Around that age was when my DD just needed more socialising and interaction... May try a little outing each day even if it's a picnic or play date with other mums :-) Hope this helps... Good luck.
Don't feel bad we have all been there at some stage or another. When I have 3 sick kids constantly needing something and crying or whinging I have tried pulling my hair out. You have a 24/7 job being a mum, we all do its not uncommon to feel this way. So first thing is first, why is bub crying, if you have taken her to your gp go again and check for allergies if it hasn't already been done, it could be dairy or wheat which both cause a grumpy baby and tummy pain, they are both in a lot of foods you wouldn't even guess they were in. Ok next thing is your sanity, what's left anyway, tell your partner it's his turn for the day, you go out and relax enjoy yourself with out someone crying at you. Find something to do also for a couple of days out of the week with her to keep her occupied and get you out, there are heaps of free things in most places so just have a look around. This is one more thing that you have to do, don't feel guilty about not being able to stand her crying and getting angry, what you are feeling deep down is not wanting your baby sad or hurt, you are being a great mum even though you may feel like shit for how you feel on the surface you are being a great mum and caring. Good luck and hugs
You are very normal, I'm sure every mother has felt like that at some point. My advice is go see your GP because there is a reason she is crying. It could be that she is picking up on your stress, it could be she is teething, it could be her tummy hurts because of a food allergy. Whatever the reason its worth going to chat to your Dr about it & tell them how your feeling. Good luck xx
Posted on the facebook site too and hope it helps! x
https://www.facebook.com/Theimperfectmum/posts/643539842379316?stream_re...
Is she crawling/walking yet? My son went through a crying stage around 10months coz he wasn't crawling yet and was getting frustrated at his lack of mobility. He wanted to get around but couldn't quiet do it yet. How is she when you take her out? Somedays my son hates being home and no matter how much I just want to stay at home I end up getting ready to go out coz he needs entertainment. Something besides all his toys! Haha! as soon as he's in his pram and outside he's happy again.
It can be really hard around this age coz they can't talk to u yet, and u want to find out so desperately what's wrong with them. I feel your pain. Like others have suggested, it can't hurt to take her to a gp and get her checked out too. Better to be safe than sorry!