Hi ladies :)
Bit long..... But here goes;
My partner and I have been together for nearly 2 years, I have a beautiful 3 year old daughter from a previous relationship - she sees her father every Saturday through to Sunday evening.
I live with my parents, my partner lives with his mum and step family. We have been looking at houses to move into and they're so so unaffordable, even with my partner earning around $70k. He only has a car loan, no other debts, I have none.
We have recently been to Perth, partners dad lives there, and we all fell in love with the areas, the beaches, just everything. We have had a glance at house prices there, they're around $380k-$450, which is completely in our budget and we would live very comfortably there.
My ex partner and I have a rocky relationship, we broke up on violent terms, police were called reports made, he just thinks he is the most hard done by person and never wrong, but I've always been very accommodating of his time with our daughter. He has moved on, his new girlfriend, who he lives with, has close connections to a bikie club. He has threatened me that he and his new mates will turn up to my house if I ever do anything wrong by him, he then told me that he was "closer to the club then I think he is."
Last week he sent me a picture of shotgun rounds, he wrote in the subject that he was bringing them around to the person the next day, he realised he'd sent them to me and wrote back and said wrong person.
I can't describe how shocked, scared and anxious I was/am.
I don't ever want to take my daughter away from her dad but I don't want her growing up around that, it scares me to think that he has guns in his house, he is that silly that he'd think it was so cool and forget to lock them away or keep out of reach.
I am seeing a lawyer soon, just about what I can do abiut his lifestyle in regards to his visitation with our daughter.
I have no issues with anyone in a bike club, I do have issues when i get threatened with it and when I have seen he's doing things with guns.
I guess I'm asking what advice can anyone give me.
I'd love to move to Perth, give my daughter a stable life. But I don't know how this is possible given I'm a separated parent.
Moving Interstate with child and new partner
Moving Interstate with child and new partner
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Let police see the photo its illegal to possess ammunition without a licence.
Apply to the court, relocate, the wait while you go through the process is a bit hairy and the threats and text message are enough to get an IVO you will want it in place before he is served with your relocation application....
Just want to wish you all the best! I'm not sure what state you are in but I am located in nsw. I have been in a similar situation excluding the violence. My ex threatened me with several things including physical violence and taking our child away so I would never see them again but never actually went through with any of them.... We had both entered new relationships and I wanted to move to Perth, went to court for it and everything. We weren't allowed to move as my child was 3 at the time and it would be harmful to the relationship that our child had with the father given the distance and phone calls would be hard and contact only 3-4 times a year once school aged, the judge was clear that if the father didn't step up and be a father he would reconsider his decision. He has stepped up enough to pay child support and has contact as per orders for the most part, he will seek to swap and change things around to suit but isn't prepared to allow the same on my side but for the most part doesn't rock the boat! Please don't be naive enough to think that Perth is the only affordable place to relocate to as its not. You can purchase elsewhere for much less the $380k-450k you just aren't seeing them because your heart is set on Perth. Be prepared for a whirlwind of bullshit if you take it to court not to mention the cost. It will not happen quickly. We were in and out of court for 4 years and spent thousands!!! Take what you know to the police with proof and get it on record!
It is extremely unlikely that you will be able to move. See your lawyer, but it is probably time to think of a plan b staying where you are.