So long story short. Had my mirena removed approximately 6 weeks ago. the gyno couldn't put the new one in that day due to my cervix being inflammed, the string got lost so wasn't the easiest of visits. We try again 2 weeks later still a no go due to pain, never had these issues the first time around :( and was told I'd need a GA to do it. The clinic that does this for a reasonable cost will only do it if you have your period. The partner come back from fifo work and we had a few slip ups and I took the morning after pill twice in that week. 3 weeks later I am now pregnant. We've only been together for 8 mths and we both each have 2 children from previous relationships. Our relationship is far from perfect but has been getting better. He has drinking issues that he is addressing and him being away for 4 weeks is hard. My head is saying not to keep the baby but my heart is saying yes. I can't be a single mother again and that is what I'm afraid of.
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Only you can decide, it is the loneliest decision you will make. Whatever decision you make though back yourself 100% if doubts creep in you have to remind yourself why you made that choice (either way) and not let the what ifs creep in.
The last sentence. You make the choice yourself. nothing worse than instead of committing to raising a healthy baby, you commit yourself, all your children and a new baby to an unhappy life of two unsuitable adults sticking together because they don't want to be single. Choose a baby for you. It's not a chain to him.
Be completely honest with yourself, there are issues there that might recur, that would be dealb reakers, your relationship really may not last. Make your decision based on that. at least then if you do decide to have the baby, youre not compromising yourself or your baby by mentally committing You both to be forever aattached to what could turn out to be an unhealthy relationship.
I know I did that, unwittingly, the first time, and it was a huge huge mistake. ( The mistake being not the baby, but sticking with him out of duty or decision for way way way too long).