I have been with my partner for almost 14 years. We have a 5 year old together and have been trying for another baby for about 3.5 years. I have miscarried 3 times and have been taking medication for 12 months now. My problem is that I don't have any desire to be intimate with him (or anyone else, just to be clear) I just don't know what is wrong with me, I still love him deeply but will pick a fight so I don't have to do it. I've used every excuse in the book. I really want a another baby and I feel like we are running out of time at 32 and 33. Am I the only person to feel like this and has anyone got any ideas for me? TIA
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Your not alone at all!! I could've written this. I'm a madly in love with husband but absolutely no desire for sex. I believe a lot of it is the pressure to fall pregnant just kills it. Was same when ttc my son and now trying again and lost it again.
I found taking a month off the treatments every few months helps and we are like newly weds that month when there's no pressure. Perhaps you could try that?
no wonder you don't want to be intimate with your partner. you are having sex to make a baby, you are not having sex to make love. so much pressure on you for one thing. plus the fact you have had so many miscarriages. maybe give the baby making a bit of a rest. and no you are not running out of time at 32 and 33. I am almost 40, single and desperate for a second baby, I am running out of time. sweetie, talk to your partner. he needs to know how you feel, otherwise you might just do some real and permanent damage to your relationship