Hi IMs
Hoping someone can help I have 2 kids aged 2 and 8 months since having my second I haven't lost a single kilo not even 1 I am at my preganacy weight
with my first it dropped off and with working out it took me 1 year to get back to normal I walk everyday with the kids in the pram eat healthy count calories and still nothing my doctor thinks I'm just lazy but I'm getting so depressed it's affecting my relationship to the point I don't want hubby to see me without being fully dressing I've lost all faith and motivation in myself has anyone been here??
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I feel your pain!!! I have to work so hard to loose weight. I went to see a nutritionist and initially she suggested a VLCD which I resisted feeling I wouldn't learn anything so she gave me a diet plan and I didn't loose weight I just maintained so switched to the VLCD. It's not for everyone and not for every weight type. I basically exist on 3 shakes a day (optifast), 2 cups of steamed veggies (non starchy) and drinks with no calories. I also make sure I do a minimum of 10000 steps a day. The weight is now coming off. Getting to a gym or getting a personal trainer wasn't an option in my situation. Have you tried keeping a food diary? You maybe surprised that some foods that people think are healthy really are not so make sure you read the nutritional info on everything. Also with the popularity of home coffee machines it's really easy to be drinking a lot of milk which wouldnt be helping the chances of loosing weight (my much loved nespresso has had to be pit away). It can also take some people longer for hormones etc to return to normal after pregnancy. If you are thinking there might be other reasons why you aren't loosing weight get a 2nd GPS opinion. You should at least be able to get a referral to a nutritionist or dietitian to help support you from your GP. I have no idea about what your weight is and how much you have to loose but don't let it get in the way of your relationship with your hubby, he loves you (whatever your weight) and pushing him away will just make things worse.
It's calories. That's all it is. You don't need any fancy program or cleansing detoxes. You're probably, without realising, eating more than you think. Calorie counting stinks, but sometimes if you just do it for a while, it makes you realise how small your portions are supposed to be. You're going to be hungry at first because your stomach is likely stretched. Start weighing your meat servings, measuring out your cereal portions etc. If you're eating 1200cals a day, you'll lose weight without any exercise. If you excerise on top of that it will drop off quicker and if you do some resistence training - you'll change your body's shape, which will make you feel GOOD. It's not your metabolism. It's not your thyroid. It's calories. I used to tell myself the same stuff that you're saying. I was lying to myself :) Try Michelle Bridges 12 week body transformation. It made me cut the excuses and all the BS I was telling myself. I'm now smaller than I was before I had all three of my kids.
Get your thyroid checked
I was the opposite. I was like this with my 1st, then with my 2nd the weight came off much easier. I have exactly the same age kids too :) after my first I never got close to my pre baby weight before I was pregnant again! there was a lot of things that were different after the birth of each so I think that had a lot to do with it. after my first I was severely anemic, vitamin b6 deficient and calcium deficient, my first was a c section, I breastfeed my first exclusively, I went on the pill also 6 weeks after she was born.
with my second I had no vitamin deficiencies, she was a natural birth, I mixed feed her and then went to formula after 5 months, I did not go on the pill.
I also have to say I am sooooo much more stressed out with my second and I get to the point that I have no time to eat so I often don't have a proper dinner.
I think you have to give yourself more time for your body to adjust its hormone levels you have been pregnant and then soon after pregnant again!
If you are breastfeeding then your body may tell you to eat and be more hungry, although people always say "oh the weight will just fall off you if you breastfeed" (although it does for some) from the research I have done your body is trying to hold on to the weight so you can breastfeed for longer.- so just be patient if this is the case.
weight loss sucks balls!
I would recommend you get your thyroid, iron levels and B12 checked in a simple blood test. Read up about hashimotos disease. I have it but I'm medicated now so it makes life much easier to loose weight once this aspect is sorted.