Hello ladies.
Iv just recently broken up with my partner a few weeks ago. We have beautiful 4year old daughter. We have broken up & got back together a few times in the 4 years of her life but this is the final break up as we have tried EVERYTHING.
Now we have to share our child & it kills me. I work 4 days a week & study also but on my work days I start very early (too early for daycare) so my daughter sleeps over her father those nights. I pick her up from daycare around 1pm & her father picks her up from mine from around 5pm. She sleeps at his 4nights out of the week. She's back and forth sleeping wise a lot. I hear from other parents you shouldn't do this & 1 home should be more permanent but I can't help my work hours & I need the money. It will be fine after my studies (i finish in 1 year) and I get a full time 9-5 job. I would honestly die if she stayed at her dads permanently but am I just selfish? This break up is hard enough without feeling like Iv lost my little girl also. She doesnt seem to mind the back and forth tho. I think she enjoys it to be honest. She's well behaved & acting like this is normal & fine.
My question is... Am I doing the right thing having her swap houses through the week or should i let her live with her dad? :(
Living arrangement for my daughter?
Living arrangement for my daughter?
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Honestly? Do what works for her, you and ex. If this is what works for now then don't worry about "should". If it stops working then you obviously need to revisit it but don't try to fix what isn't broken.
If it's working for her and you do it! Don't worry about anyone else
There is absolutely nothing wrong with what you are doing! Shared care is very common these days and it allows you to work and study.
Aslong as your child isn't upset by it keep going :)