list of sex topics for hubby. good idea??

Ok, so this is very sexually graphic.......hubby & I not doing rainbows & fireworks in the bedroom anymore. I have tried talking to him but he shuts down. I have come up with a list to present to him which I'm hoping will male it easier for us both to talk about it.
I'm wanting opinions please, is it too confrontational or negative??

Would love a few male perspectives too :)
Ok, here goes!!!!........................

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I don't know what turns u on anymore.

I don't know what sort of porn u watch. I would like to try stuff u like

U have a harder time 'finishing' when we have sex

It doesn't seem as intimate anymore
I want to feel comfortable enough to tell u what I want in the broom but I don't atm. I'm hoping we can fix that.

It feels mechanical & not intimate sometimes

I initiate all the time now, you never do.

**I want sex more & u masturbate instead :( that says to me that it IS me as there is nothing wrong with your sex drive. U still want it, just not with me.
**I feel like u prefer rubbing one out, to having sex with me & it makes me feel like shit :(

U seem to have given up on ever making me orgasm. Its going to happen if we can talk about sex & I can't wait for when it does :)

I have tried suggesting new things in the bedroom (d/l pirates, make own video, record each other) but u don't seem to show any interest.

When we do have great sex its awesome, is it wrong that I want more of it?

I love seeing you turned on, but it feels like I don't do that for u anymore, I wish I knew what I could do to make it more exciting for you again like it used to be

I miss the intimacy we used to have & I really think we could improve on it

I can't think of anything better than for both of us to be totally satisfied with our sex life :)

I'm not trying to make u uncomfortable or guilty by talking about it, I feel just as uncomfortable as u

You say you don't like sex at night, but will rub one out when I'm asleep. That makes me feel like shit, put yourself in my shoes.
I also feel like shit when u rub one out after we have had sex. when would u prefer we have sex?

I want to be what u think about to get u turned on & when we have sex.

I feel I have tried spicing it up with random bj & asking for head ( as u don't offer like u used to).

*** (copied from net) sexual time you do have together to be almost like a sanctuary.., sacred in a way.., something to look forward to.., not run away or stray from.., and definitely not substitute with masturbating.
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Bit of background, together 5 yrs, married 2. I have children from prev relationship but they don't live with us. We are great in every other aspect of our relationship.