Big story here. Please bare with me. I'm trying to paint a clear picture.
I am at my wits end with my kids. I love them with all my heart, but good lord they make life difficult sometimes & lately the thought of having to do anything with them or go anywhere with them sends me into a panic & my anxiety levels skyrocket.
We have 2 sons, almost 14 & 10 & a 7 year old daughter.
Our eldest is pretty standard for his age I guess. He sits in his room, watching TV & playing Xbox after his chores & homework are done.
Mr 9 has add, adhd & odd. He is & has been under the care of paediatric's, counsellors & the school & I work together with his behaviour to keep on top of it for him. Most days he is good. We have a real good 'plan' working for him.
He & our daughter though, Fight constantly!!!
They go out of their way to annoy each other, compete with each other eg- 'I saw a duck today' 'I SAW IT FIRST!!!' & then the fighting starts. On & on & on. Over the most ridiculous things! (I'm not even joking about the damned duck!!)
They are nasty to each other, they dob, they lie about what the other did, they take each other's stuff & hide it to upset the other. It's just unbelievable.
We have done parenting courses, paediatricians, spoken to the school, their behaviour is fantastic there!
We discipline on the spot. They know how NOT to behave. We have 'family meetings' where we discuss the rules again, see if any need changing, are they happy, is there something happening they want to tell us about. But nothing.
With discipline, everything is the same each time- warning, time out, things taken away & then grounding if the behaviour continues.
I work for myself. 50 hours a week, at home doing child care so I can be home with them. Husband works away 4 days a week (leaves at lunch time, home by 11pm each night) when he is home when they are, he is fantastic & helps in every way & they're ok, they still fight, but not as much. but as soon as he's gone, they are impossible!!! They interrupt me, they yell over the top of me at each other, they butt in & fight when I have clients here & I look like a fool! How must it look that I look after people's children while my own show such poor behaviour & rudeness!!!
I honestly just do not know what to do. I am tired of dealing with the same crap day in day out with them. They KNOW better! You ask them what is appropriate behaviour & they'll happily tell you, but it's like they just CAN'T behave for me. Or won't.
I don't know. I just honestly don't know what to do. I am tired from dealing with this everyday by myself. It wasn't any different when hubby has a 9-5 job. It's like they do it intentionally to make me go mad. I am desperate for some peace in my house.
Thanks for reading.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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I think they are doing it because they know it gets you riled up! Ignore it, let them sort it out themselves. They probably see it as a game. We used to do it to our mum too :)