I am a single mum with 3 kids, I've left a DV relationship. I'm getting better at dealing with it, but I am so tired. I'm tired of everything, except my kids. I have all the time in the world for them.
I have suffered anxiety and depression for years as well as PTSD. And some days are better then others.
I met a guy a couple of months ago (through a mutual friend) and he has gone out his way to impress me, but I have told him so many times I am not ready for a relationship of any sorts unless its friends. I am getting the feeling that he thinks he could change my mind and I'm getting so tired of being nice. I know that sounds horrible, but I have been to hell and back and finally finding myself again all to feel suffocated. I'm doing everything possible to not lead this guy on. If I had met him at a different time in my life things might have been different. He just does not seem to get that me being a single mum is hard, very hard. I'm exhausted. I don't have time for myself let alone anyone else.
I have devoted my life to fixing the mess my ex left myself and my children in. Plus trying to grieve for my father. The last couple of years have not been easy on me at all. I always start to think its getting better then I fall again. Sometimes it all just feels like too much.
I don't think I'm really asking anything I just needed to vent.
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Its time to be very clear with the guy in question that you are absolutely not interested and that he needs to leave you alone. You don't owe him anything, but you owe it to yourself to look after you even if that means being a little mean. It is perfectly reasonable to want to be single and if he can't understand that HE HAS A PROBLEM. So send him a text saying you are absolutely not interested. If he keeps contacting you block his text messages and phone calls. Tell your mutual friends he is making a pest of himself and that they are not to encourage him. It is ok to look after you and your kids and get yourself back on track and you shouldn't have to worry about this guys feelings.
Stay strong, you are doing great x