Over 10 years ago when I was in my early 20s, I was "casually" seeing a guy for a very short period of time. He treated me absolutely atrociously! And I realised this pretty quickly and severed all ties with him after one particular incident which completely threw me.
I was at his house and I was not in "the mood" and I was determined not to be talked into anything. After persistently pestering me, and me continually saying "no!" Verbally as well as through my body language. He said something that shocked me completely he said "you don't want me to get violent do you?"
I obviously felt like I had no choice but to give in. But afterwards, I couldn't even look him in the eye. I felt physically sick. I couldn't wait to get out of there!
It has taken me a very long time to try and forget, and stop blaming myself. And now I think it is affecting my current sex life with my husband.
I have never talked about it to anyone except one very close friend.
Is this considered rape? Is it too late to seek help?
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It's never too late to seek help in the form of counselling. It does sound like rape to me. Hope you find some peace soon
If you didn't want to do it, its rape. regardless of if you were dating, or if you had previously had sex,
He abused you and its never too late to get help.
Be strong! <3 xx.
Sorry he sounds abusive and glad that he is no longer physically in your life. You absolutely need to speak to a professional. You shoud apply through victim services and they wil offer you free counselling in your area. You should make sure who you see is a trauma counsellor or someone who specialises in that area.
I am in an abusive relationship this happens to me everynight :( I understand
X thinking of you
Please talk to your husband. If something serious was on his mind, you would want him to talk to you. Seek help together perhaps. Good luck darling xx