I think I'm having an identity crisis.
I've never wanted anything more than to be a mother. I've worked in child care for 10 years and that only solidified my desire to have children of my own.
I am now the mother of a beautiful 7 month old little girl who I love with all my heart. Her father, my husband, is amazing. I love him more than ever. Everything is going right for us.
But I have this feeling, niggling away at me, that makes me feel like a terrible person, wife and mother. I just don't feel like Me anymore. I feel like everyday I get up and look after them. Everything is about them. I feel terrible putting this into words. I sound ungrateful and unloving, but I am so grateful for what I have and I love them both so much.
I just don't know who I am any more. I'm a mother and a wife, but I don't know who I am. It sounds crazy.
I suppose I'm just looking for reassurance that I'm not the only one who feels this way.
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Here is the deal. You are totally normal. It's impossible for me to feel totally fulfilled by looking after others (my son etc) without filling up my own tank from other sources. I need to engage in a variety of activities. Looking after my son, hobbies, study/work, exercise, friendships outside of the home. Just because you are a mum and a wife it doesn't mean you have to give up other interests and doesn't mean you don't need to explore new interests. As people we don't stop growing and we shouldn't stop trying new things and expanding our interests.
You might try some things and then realise they aren't for you but until you start experimenting and allowing time for yourself you won't know.