I have three children...a 16yo son, 2.5yo son & 7 month old daughter. They are my absolute heart and soul, but right now all I want is to have a break from them. The two youngest are really testing my patience and while I know I would never physically harm them, all I seem to be doing is growling at the 2 year old and becoming really short with my daughter. She's just so clingy and unsettled...as soon as she notices im not near her she starts screeching like a banshee. I can't get much done through the day because I constantly have to entertain her. My two year old is constantly trying to get my attention because I'm always with my daughter. I feel so guilty, I try to spend as much time with him as I can but sometimes it's just so hard.
I hate the raving lunatic I feel like I have become. I just want to run away for a day or two and just be by myself. I'm so tired and run down, but I feel guilty that I dont want to be around my children right now.
Am I alone with these feelings or do other mums feel like they just need a break.I love my kids but I am so over them right now.
My partner helps with the kids and house hold chores but makes me feel guilty that sometimes he does more chores than I do.
I love my kids but I am just so over them right now!
I love my kids but I am just so over them right now!
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Massive hugs. It sounds like you are absolutely exhausted which would make everything seem worse.
It sounds like your girl might be going through a mental leap or starting separation anxiety, hence the clinginess. It is a really trying stage but it is normal. If you baby-wear you could front or back-carry her so she's with you but you can still do stuff? A woven wrap or an Ergo/Manduca-style carrier is best for this at her age.
Have a word to hubby too - his complaining and guilt-tripping isn't necessary. I understand it's frustrating for him too but it shouldn't be about who does more around the house. Everyone should just be pitching in to get stuff done. Let him know how you're feeling and how he can help.
You are not alone in these feelings. Any mother who says they don't want a break (at least once while their kids are small) is either lying or superhuman. It's very draining!
It's totally normal to want and NEED a break from your kids. I found taking regular breaks of around 8hrs a week worked for me, made me a better parent when I was with my son and was also great for my son. It stopped me getting to the point of wanting to run away!