Husband to housemate

I can see this would work but I can also see when each partner started dating some problems would come up. When I was growing up we had a friend that the parents where divorced but they lived next to each other. The father bought the next door neighbours house so mum and dad lived next door to each other and the kids could come and go between the two.

I think you need to sit down and make very clear rules for each other. Will you continue to clean or cook for him? Will you both do your own chores? Who will be paying what bills? And most Importantly will you be allowed to go out and date? Will you be allowed to bring people home? I agree that in the short term it's fine but in the long run unless you are both super confident and calm I see there even issues when you begin dating again. Besides it won't be long before your kids clue on to what is going on...

I did it, it was the best thing financially for us and for our child. I thoguht it would jsut be until the end of our lease, but it turned out to be an easy fallback, plans together just kept on happening out of habit or ease, it was quite a waste of time. The problem i s it stops you from moving on, really becomng that independent new person you would become if you split. it works out practically well when you get along, do your jobs and dont expect anymore of each other, but be careful the comfort can lead you to fall back into the reltionship instead of moving forward. Also think about what youre modeling for your kids, its not the kind of love id want them to expect and seek from a relationship. Also think about why you wouldnt want him to have his own place down the road. Its more challenging, you dont have as much control, financially its more expensive, but there are a lot of pros to that too - routine, privacy, new relationships, friendships, changing old habits, distance, independence, rest & support when you send the kids there.
I agree it can become messy, you could almost believe you're still in some kind of relationship, so one partner could get shocked that the other has moved on or is dating or what they choose to do, believing they are single, yet still living as a family. Never mind that you will doubtfully find a nice man who would get involved with you in this living situation, so you're sacrificing big & risking missing opportunities & moving on.
For me i found it worked well financially as a short term option but once i gained some momentum & grew emotionally stronger i could make the decision to part.
Do what works for you while its working, and just be ready to change if you see it starting to not work.

My husband and I live separetly in the same house however we are still married and not split in anyway. It works fantastically for us. However we're not a couple that is "consciously uncoupling". If you remain good friends and keep a balanced relationship it has the basis of a good foundation for a split family. However you both need to discuss the future and where it's going. You need to split everything down the middle from bills, chores and time off. Also what happens if one of you want to start dating and then what happens from there? If you did all the house work/kid rearing (as common woth mums) then you need to pull back and make sure he pulls his socks up and pitch in aswell. Otherwise I fear that he would take advantage of the fact he is now single but with a "wife" at home doing everything for him and the. You'll end up feeling used, resentful and whatever relationship you have will breakdown and cause further issues which will cause a negative affect on your family. Whatever you decide, good luck and I hope it all works for the best.