It's a long one and I have a couple of questions so I apologise.
After my first session seeing a counsellor he says I need to focus on:
* Building my confidence because I have none within myself and as a mother and make myself happy again (how do I build my confidence and get happy again, I don't even know what I enjoy?)
* Write things down that I like about myself (I told him I can't think of one thing)
* I need to accept that I cannot control what people think of me
* I need to accept that if someone has a problem with me, to know that it's their problem not mine. (how do I actually make myself not care?)
He says my anxiety stems from my issues with my parents / mum / mums drinking / upbringing.
My question is, how do I mentally and emotionally stop caring what people think/say/do towards me? How do I ACTUALLY stop caring. Because I can say I don't care until I'm blue in the face but I still very much do.
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I think this is one for your counsellor. You don't have to have all the answers straight away and your counsellor can help you work through all of this. It starts to come together. You'll have some light bulb moments along the way.
Things to like...
Like that you're trying to fix you, and that takes strength!
Like that you have the courage to say 'I need help'
Cognitive behaviour therapy and exercise. True story.
I think you might benefit from reading some articles or books on building self confidence and your inner voice. (I'm sorry I can't recommend any, all mine came from dolly or Cosmo magazine lol) I suspect your inner voice needs a good telling off for all the mean things it tells you! I can tell you one thing you can like about yourself - you've acknowledged a problem (anxiety) and your seeking help! That's a great place to start. And it's a great thing to do for your kids.
Please continue seeking help and maybe try this- if u find yourself thinking something negative please say to yourself "stop! It is just a thought, that doesn't mean it's true/it doesn't define me ect' good luck sweet heart