I have recently learned that I person I took into my house was interfering with my preschooler. At this stage we think just fondling but that is more than enough. I am mortified and I have so many mixed emotions from guilt to anger to sadness to failure and probably more. I need to be able to talk to people who have been through it and work out how to move on because it is tearing me apart. Can anyone suggest a group or something where I maybe able to find this.
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Try brave hearts.
Have you reported it? Sometimes the police in charge of these cases have numbers to contact with support groups. Try the local community health centre as well, they sometimes have sexual assault workers who work with the parents and the children. It doesn't necessarily have to be rape, what has happened to your child is classed as sexual assault and is a crime. I am not surprised you feel the range of emotions you do.
I was "interfered with" by the teen-aged son of my family day carer when I was 3-5 years of age and was ignored by my parents when I tried to tell them.. - I am so glad you are seeking help for you and your child! Firstly, it is important that you contact the police, they will also have lots of contacts for support groups, etc. Otherwise try BraveHearts or the Department of Child Services in your state. Those support groups may also have education about how to address the topic with your child - as a result of my experience, I decided to explain body parts to my daughter when we were teaching her how to wash herself (child psychologists recommend sticking to clinical terms) and talked about who is and isn't allowed to see/touch, etc... Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time...