Hi IMs, I have 3 kids already and was fairly sure I didn't want anymore, now I don't know why, but out of the blue I find my heart aching for another, hubby and I have discussed it and although we'd both love to have another, we've decided it's in the best interest of the kids we already have not to have anymore.
Heart vs head is so hard....
Does anyone have any tips on overcoming this feeling??
If I got my tubes done to take the option away do you think it would help?
Feeling so confused :(
How to get over the feeling of wanting another baby
How to get over the feeling of wanting another baby
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I found it was a process. It was an all or nothing kind of deal. I kept reminding myself of the reasons not to have another baby. I allowed myself a bit of grieving time but I didn't dwell or mooch. Then I went and got my tubes tied. On the day I had a little cry but deep down I knew it was the right thing for me. I've never regretted the tube tying and not regretted not having another baby. Occasionally when I see a baby I go AWE but I'm not in the least bit jealous. I feel really happy
When me and hubby had our third and last we both knew he was our last ( it was a stretch to have a 3 rd for hubby ) now every milestone my youngest has I have a little sad moment knowing this is going to be the last time. I also found getting rid of the baby things once they have grown out of the has helped aswell
I'm interested to know why you both think it's not in the best interest of your children? I'm one of 5 & love the friendships I had & still have with my siblings. Material possessions (like having the latest iPad or whatever is the next craze) mean nothing when you have a living family - that's me assuming its money that is the issue. As long as kids have the basics and lots of love, there's nothing more they need. As they say, you never regret the children you have