I don't know what to do. It seems so unfair that I can be so unhappy in my relationship but to get out of it, I will be hurting everyone I care about.
How do you even decide something like leaving a marriage and being able to negotiate co-parenting when all the while trying to stay strong and reassure your kids that they are loved and be sensitive to their needs and feelings.
I know I want to leave, and I am seeing a psychologist to make sure I am in the right frame of mind to make such a huge decision. But I have been thinking about it for at least 6 months now.
Worst of all is trying to explain it to my 3 kids. The eldest is 8. How did you explain your breakup to your children? And how did they take it?
Still living together and not seperated yet, but I'm feeling this needs to happen soon.
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Sometimes kids are relieved! They aren't silly, they can tell when people aren't happy. You tell them that mummy and daddy love them very much and always will love them, but mummy and daddy aren't going to live in the same house anymore. I wouldn't give any more detail than that.
Don't put roadblocks in the way of your own happiness.
I felt a lot of Guilt and heartache for my kids, but actually it was unnecessary. They adapt and as long as you're happy they will thrive. they will be happier in a happy home and as a parent remember that you are modelling to them happines. And relationship values, I'd rather do that than keep them living with an unhappy mum (and probably dad) in an unhappy house. They still have both parents and are loved, it's just a change.