I cant be the only one who is sick of feeling horrible for all the bashing towards working mums! Some of us don't have a choice things happened out of our control and my 2 year mat leave turned into 6 months
I feel guilty all the time get looked down on my friends and family who don't know were living off $100 of groceries a week with 2 in nappies and when All i hear is stay at home mums sooking about it being hard work!
Being a mum is hard work whether ur at home or at work.
I work but still have juat as much cooking and cleaning to do for 5 people washing clothes shopping ect all which is done late at night so i can spend my precious 2 day off giving my kids me time without me running around doing washing and cleaning.
I would give anything to be able to stay at home but after my partner was made redundant he couldnt find anything that paid half as much so we now both work and he works 2 jobs and its killing us.
I dont know how single mums do it! I have no time to myself or with my partner would love anyone has some handy tips or money savers???
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No mummy bashing here! 2 In nappies is a tough time financially :(
When things are tough financially the pasta aisle is my friend! It fills everyone up.
I think the hard thing to do is to accept it's time to downsize if you can. Either renting out your home and renting something cheaper, selling up or if you were renting moving into a cheaper place. If you are only home on weekends and evenings most houses in australia are a waste of space. My son and I lived very comfortably in a one bedroom unit for years. We miss it! He had the bedroom and I had the sofa bed. Down sizing cars. If you don't make those big changes all your doing is delaying the inevitable or saving small change.
If you have pets rehome them. Sounds harsh but feeding out kids comes first. Also will cut down on workload.
Your not alone. Us stay at home mums get a beating also. I had someone the other day ask how I was, I replied with 'tired', their response was 'why? You don't do anything' I could rattle off a list as long as my arm as to what I did that day but I don't have to justify myself to anyone. Plus I'm positive every parent on this planet whether working or at home has felt tired.
I'm sorry people are making u feel guilty, just remember you are doing what's best for your family ♡
I was a stay at home mum before my divorce and it's hard!! Now I'm working and doing everything on my own it's even harder. The mum bit is the hardest, if you work or not. We all beat ourselves up which ever way. We just have to accept what we are given and try and do our best until something better comes along.
I'm a stay at home mum and honestly I take my hat off to working mums. I don't know how you do it. I have a 5 year old, 4 month old and I struggle. You shouldn't feel guilty your doing what you need to for your family. Your kiddies will grow up, they won't care if you stayed home with them, they will. Remember their mummy did all she could and loved them immensely!
Give your self some credit mum, your doing a fab job! x
I have been both an at home mum and a working mum. Either way it's hard. We ran a business for 7 years during my eldest sons early schooling and most other parents looked down on the fact we had our son in the shop with us. Thing is you have to do what you have to do. There is no other way. One of the other answers talked about downsizing and it's a good idea. What helped us was relocating interstate, saved us a lot on rent and we ended up with more room and a better quality of life. Although just relocating to an area where things are a little cheaper will help a lot. Less drastic changes are look at your shopping and where you can make things from scratch if you dont already, give slow cooking a go cheap cuts of meat less hands on time and dinner is ready without too much hassle. There are also places that sell bulk nappies of reasonable quality which can free up a littke extra week ti week. There is light at the end of the tunnel. You are a great mum doing every thing you can to help your family. Don't listen to those who would run you down rather than offer support, they don't live your life
Just want to encourage you. I am a sahm and I am in awe of working mums. You all amaze me in the best way.
It's hard being a mum let alone shoving a full time job on top of your full time mothering.
I am a carer to my hubby and understand the frantic pace of being in several places at once wearing the many hats we wear as people, women, mothers and partners.
If your kids can help with rosters job around the house it helps free up some time while tracing responsibility.
Can either of you study or apply for a better position? Do you have some skill you could market as your own business?
Can other family help?
Googling easy and cheap recipes that can be made in advance (with kids is fun for relationship and skills) helps with budgeting and eating well. Keep a spending diary and find out where you spend your dollars and see what can change there.