Hi, I'd like to ask a question for the other IM's.
My ex. started a new job and the days he spends with our son are now erratic. He used to have our son every Tuesday night for dinner, every second Thursday overnight and every other weekend (Fri, Sat. night.) Our 3YO is now acting out constantly and I am finding that I am unable to plan anything in advance just in case my sons Dad wants to have him. How do I ask/tell him that he needs to pick consistent days without being a bitch? I don't want to stop him from seeing his son, but the lack of routine is confusing the little guy and I want what is best for him. I am struggling to deal with everything else in my life (and yes, there may be other factors contributing to my son acting out but they can't be changed) let alone chasing down the days he may or may not take our son for dinner/overnight. Most days I don't know til a few hours before he picks him up what is going on. Any constructive ideas?
How do I tell my ex he needs to pick specific days to have our son, not just randomly tell me when he wants him?
How do I tell my ex he needs to pick specific days to have our son, not just randomly tell me when he wants him?
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Tell him what you wrote here. I would organise mediation to get everything formalised. I would plan your schedule for the week and if that means he rings and your son has something else on that's a lesson he will learn.
The great part about mediation is there are information session that you do first basically how to be a good divorced person and it sounds like your ex needs that :)
Get a specific parenting/visitation plan in place!!! Do it legally then he can't come whenever and if he misses he misses. That what it's legally done and you can legally day no and your son stays in routine.