My husband and I separated in late October. We have had a very difficult 2 years with me suffering from PND, financial stresses, teenage stepson coming to live in our family home. My husband also took on a second job to help us save to go on our dreamed of family holiday, and to pay off our debts (we have heaps of debt)
I truly believe he has depression and a drinking problem. However he doesn't see it that way.
My 2 y/o dd and I moved interstate to live with my mum. I am also 20 weeks pregnant with our second child (his 3rd) I left with the intention of returning to our home to work on things after he asked me for time and space.
Since we have been separated I have learned of his "friend" who is 10 years younger than him. I believe they were having an emotional affair before he came to me and wanted to separate and it has continued on from there. Fast forward to today he informed me that something might happen between the two of them. They have been hanging out heaps.... I am devastated and hoped deep down that we would be able to be a family again.
How do I move past all this? I have cut contact with him for the moment because I need some space but we will need to have some contact because of our dd and financial issues.
I am hurting for myself, for our family, for my children. How can I over come this and not become bitter?
Thanks IM's any advice is welcome
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As hard as it might seem, you have to put yourself first. I know some people might say it's more important to put your kids first in this position but to me that's not true. If you are happy and content, so will be your children. Sit him down and lay it all out. Say you need an answer, you deserve the truth, and the ability to move on if that's what you have to do.
Hey after being in your position time is the main thing in getting over a broken relationship. But the healing doesn't start until you accept it is over. I cried everyday for about 8 months then after the first of each anniversary (birthdays, Christmas etc) Each day was easier and happier. It has been 3 years almost to the day I found put he was leaving and life is great.
This was posted on the facebook page too and I hope the responses help x
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