I have never had any confidence in the way I look, I think I am ugly and that the good looking ones will never be attracted to me and will never want me. I am a size 16-18 and I feel this is part of the problem. I therefore always go after the not so good looking ones that are quite large, and not so popular with the females.
I went on a valentines day cruise for singles on Friday, and met a gorgeous man, who bought me a drink and we talked before other ladies wanted him, seriously wouldn't let him go. I got talking to another gentleman who I would never look at twice and he was really nice.
the cute one waited for me after the cruise to apologise and he paid for my daughter and I to attend another gathering with this singles group on sunday.
i don't know if either like me, the cute one also bought a drink for another lady on sunday as well as for my daughter and i.
And i just found out that the not so cute one is being pursued by someone i know.
In my mind i cannot compete with this woman even though somewhere i know i am a little bit more attractive than her, but everyone has different ideas about what is attractive and i am so upset and everything i want to throw in the towel.
i have been single for 5 yrs and i am so lonely and desperate for love that i am scared that i want the not so attractive one because i want someone and don't think i can get any one better
help me please, i am so confused and don't know what is going on in my head at the moment..
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Everybody is beautiful - that includes YOU, believe it or not! All your flaws & imperfections make you who you are & no other person is exactly the same as you. You are an individual, & nobody is perfect. You are what makes you, YOU. Nobody else. There is someone out there for everyone & that means there's someone out there for you too. Don't force it, it'll happen when it's time. Just because of your size does not mean you are unworthy of loving. You're worth loving just as much as a size 10 woman. We all have insecurities, every one of us. That's what makes us who we are, & we are all perfect in our own way. Do something for you to boost your confidence & remember, just because you don't think you're beautiful, your daughter will think you're the most beautiful woman in her eyes because she looks upto you. Children see, children do, so don't put yourself down because then your daughter will learn those negative habits too. She looks upto you. In her eyes you're everything. Stay strong xx
I was a size 16-18 when I met my partner in a night club. We hit it off and enjoyed each others company and now 2 yrs and a baby later, I couldn't imagine life without him. He's no Brad Pitt, sure, but I haven't settled for second best. I love him for him, warts n all. Does it matter that the second guy is not so attractive? If you got to know him you might see that he is a wonderful man.
I'm not a super model and I don't pretend to be. But I know I'm worthy and I have self respect and confidence. Not all men go for looks. They love personality and humor and your smile. If you be yourself you will find someone out there who loves you for you.
And I agree with Amanda, don't put yourself down infront of your daughter, it's not healrhy for her.
Learn to love yourself, start eating clean, exercise daily, put a smile on when you walk out the door and you will become a confident lady and men love confidence.