Hi everyone,
I need to know how to get my self confidence back I have lost when i was pregnant with my son when my husband for some reason wouldn't have Sex with me at all for my entire pregnancy i asked the question which never got an answered. I was 72 kgs before my son & now am 72 kgs just have a few stretch marks and saggy boobs lol but before I was pregnant I wore beautiful lingerie and now I don't it's hidden away in my cupboard I have worn it in at least 4.5 years probably because I don't feel beautiful or pretty ever! I have had the same dead straight hair length has just grown longer past my bum now so I have absolutely no self confidence and I don't know how to get through it.
Hubby doesn't ever tell me I'm beautiful or pretty unless I say it first im at a loss I don't have the funds to make myself over or buy new clothes.
I am 36 years old & sure I should feel like this :(
How do I get my self confidence back?
How do I get my self confidence back?
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Hi, I'm really sorry you feel this way. You're talking a lot about your physical appearance, but I find self esteem comes from deeper than that. I'm going to suggest you feel tHe way you do not because of how you look but because of your husbands total lack of interest and support. There comes a time (pregnant and newborn definitely) when it's not about looking amazing, it's about putting in a bit of effort and being made to feel a thousand bucks. That comes from love. Is there something more in your relationship you need to look into?
If youre not getting iT From him, let him know he needs to work on that, that it's really important for you, otherwise stop giving him the power to destroy it. You can build yoUr own esteem and feel great about yourself but it's very hard when you're living with someone who keeps breaking it.
I totally understand how you feel as I myself lack self confidence and I also suffer from anxiety and depression. Before i fell pregnant I lost a total of 27.5kgs and got down to a size 12 and was happy with my body and in myself. Then I was pregnant and all that weight went back on and now im struggling to lose it at all. When you feel like your other half isnt telling you your beautiful or anything like that you tend to think something is wrong with you or that they are putting distance between you and them. Try not to let the feeling that you are having control your relationship and the way you interact with your partner as if you think he isnt feeling the way he use to or something is up you can sometimes make problems between you both yourself without realising as you become more distant and try to hide the parts of your body that you are hating. You need to talk to him about your issues and why you are feeling the way you are and that you cant help the way you feel but you need his support and love to get you back on track. He needs to know that just saying your beautiful when your feeling down or sad or you ask him if you are isnt going to make you feel like he means it or like its coming from his heart. He needs to show you off his own bat and make it feel real and meaningful. Once this happens you will start to get your groove back and become that happy, smiling person you once where and never hide again