My 18y/o daughter (who resides/resided with her grandparents in another state) has just started a relationship with and moved in with a 45y/o man. How do I deal with the fact that my daughter is with someone her fathers age?
P.S. My daughter also has an intellectual disability, which concerns/worries me more.
How do I deal with my daughters current relationship?
How do I deal with my daughters current relationship?
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I think all you can do is trust you raised her right. I assume her intellectual disability isn't so bad that you've needed to apply for guardianship of her. What do her grandparents think?
I'd be more concerned wether he is a nice guy, does he look after her best interests than his age.
Have you met him, what is he like other than his age?
I've dated men my dads age. Older men can be lovely.
Dr Phil gave some great advice on teenagers dating older men and what rites of passage / life experiences that older person has lived but is depriving the younger of having. And advice for parents to deal with it you could probably find it somewhere on his website I would guess.
If you push her you'll push her to him, so be supportive and there when she needs you. Hopefully you can find the right way to handle it to encourage her to make the best decision for herself.
Hi mama, I am your daughter 8 years ago. I was going from couch to couch, couldn't hold down a job. Running away from problems. Sleeping around, heck I even worked in a sex parlour to stay alive.
Unfortunately you can't make her change. The more you push, the further away she will go.
Just make sure she knows you are there, don't quiz her on her lifestyle or tell her how to live. All teenagers believe they know best and can control their life the best way possible, even though we were all wrong in thinking that it's just a part of growing up. Don't give up hope though!!
If you stop pressuring her about her lifestyle, she will see friends and others moving forward in life and she won't be, she will wake up one day and think what am I doing!
That was me 4 years ago and I am so glad that day came where I woke up.
She will get there, stay strong and just be prepared to be there when she needs you the most.