I'm a mess
Please mums help me to get through my first born starting kindy next week.
She had an hour this morning of meet and play at the kindy. And half way through I just broke down crying at the thought of not being by her side in her next journey. I have spent the rest of the day in tears. I'm actually a mess. It's only been this past week it has hit me that it's happening.
She is very ready (4.5years old, bright kid & in my eyes just the most perfect little girl). I don't want her to see my upset but she did today.
I also have a 2.5yr old and 1.5yr old.
Please nothing negative and just let go comments. I just want to know from other mums I'm normal and anything helpful to get me through the first drop off next Wednesday so I don't turn into a blubbering mess on her special day.
(She's never been to day care etc & always been in my care since she was born)
Thank you mums
7 Replies
Make the drop off short and sweet. If she sees you upset she may become nervous. You can start balling when you get home or in the car. Organise something nice for you to do after you've dropped her. You will get used to it.
Say hi to the teachers, give her a big hug and kiss and lots of words of encouragent then run like hell to the car and cry, first day of Kindy I sat on the lounge with my son and was just a mess (pregnant with my third at the time). I honestly have no idea how I did it with my daughter but with time and knowing she was in great hands I just got used to it. This year it will be my son this will be my same method and putting on make up before dropping my daughter at school. Good luck it's such a scary new time xo
Be happy and proud she is becoming an independent young lady it's just another developmental stage in our children's lives, I was a total mess but also felt a sense of proudness that my daughter was ok without me and ABSOLUTELY loved going felt like I did something right to make her independent, just don't think to much into on the day just be happy for her then let it go in the car, the smile on her face and the stories she will tell you from the day and friends she made will be priceless:)
It is a very exciting time for your little girl. I know it can be upsetting for us mums but she needs the social skills and she will have so much to tell you when you pick her up. I remember when I sent my youngest off to Prep and I thought how much I missed her and her sister and then when I picked them up in the afternoon, the fighting began haha. Imagine all the time you get to spend with your younger children now while your big girl is at big school learning...be excited for her :) I worry about puberty up ahead for my girls in a couple of years, then they won't be little girls any more...time goes so fast.
Focus on spending time with your younger children, that's what helped me. It's amazing how they change personalities once the oldest is away. It was a great time for me to spend quality time playing/teaching colours alphabet etc without the bossy big sister always jumping on.
It's pretty normal feeling to have. She wil have a great time and will be very well looked after. And when she's itching to go back it wil make you more at ease with leaving her.
Id also reccommend talking to other mums there and striking up a friendship, chances are just about everyone else is in the exact same boat too.
Good luck!!
Focus on spending time with your younger children, that's what helped me. It's amazing how they change personalities once the oldest is away. It was a great time for me to spend quality time playing/teaching colours alphabet etc without the bossy big sister always jumping on.
It's pretty normal feeling to have. She wil have a great time and will be very well looked after. And when she's itching to go back it wil make you more at ease with leaving her.
Id also reccommend talking to other mums there and striking up a friendship, chances are just about everyone else is in the exact same boat too.
Good luck!!
Don't cry at the school or in front of your daughter, she may then associate school with fear and unhappiness. It's a grand adventure for them going to school. A short and sweet drop off say good morning, get her to say good morning, (to the teachers) a kiss and a hug and then get out of there and hold your tears until you get into the car or get home. It's hard but you just focus on your younger children and do things with them during the day and when they have a nap you can have a rest or catch up on stuff you want to do :)