Ok so I divorced my husband 3 years ago. He's the father of my 3 children. He was always verbally abusive towards me, when he started being mean and nasty to the kids, that's when I left. Fast forward to now, the kids have had a roller coaster relationship with their father. Anywhere from no contact, to having them every second weekend. He has step children that live with him. The last visit, he was arguing with the eldest step child, and slammed the child against the fridge, then pinned them there. In front of one of my children. My child is now terrified to go back, yet still wanting to see her father, as she had the idea you should have a relationship with your father regardless of the circumstances. My question is..... Should I stop sending all is them? As I'm terrified he will lose his temper with them..... Or should I let them go if they want to? Feeling very confused
how to deal with kids wanting to see abusive father
how to deal with kids wanting to see abusive father
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I wouldn't allow them to go anymore, unfortunately you will be seen as the bad guy by you kids and ex, but no one ever said it was easy to be mum, you need to do what is best for them, their children, they need protection an don't understand the possible dangers good luck mumma
I'd go to mediation and ask supervised visitation, don't send them back until after it's been signed by the courts.