How do we deal with my brother-in-law's wife?
Neither my hubby or myself get along with his brother's wife. Being invited to family gathers makes tension between us, there's the part of us that want to go, then we'd have to deal with "her". She's called me a bitch & lier multiple times. Yet if I say anything negative about her I'm in the bad books with the inlaws.
We will say hi and be civil, make sure we sit no where near her (try to even be out of sight). We have tried to make amends with her multiple times and she will never show up.
This has been going on for years and we wish my inlaws would stop putting us in this position. We understand that it's difficult for them and they would like everyone at family gatherings, yet is it too much to ask for them to be understanding of how we feel?
Example this mothers day we have been asked to a family breakfast, we would love to see the aunts & extended family, yet I don't want to deal or even see this person and dampen my mother's day. She already wreaked our new years day, yet another issue that she refuses to acknowledge.
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Pick and choose when you are around her. Take Mother's Day off :)
Oh I could have written this about my sister inlaw, it's gotten to the point me and hubby dodge as many family occasions as possible that they attend. We just can't be bothered with her judging us and playing favourites with our kids. For this Sunday my parents are having an afternoon tea thing they are coming, we unfortuently already had plans I explained this to my mum and said could we come next weekend for dinner or you could come to our place ?? She says ok well I will have to check with your brother and his wife and I'll get back to you. They aren't even invited to next weekend.
Oh I could have written this about my sister inlaw, it's gotten to the point me and hubby dodge as many family occasions as possible that they attend. We just can't be bothered with her judging us and playing favourites with our kids. For this Sunday my parents are having an afternoon tea thing they are coming, we unfortuently already had plans I explained this to my mum and said could we come next weekend for dinner or you could come to our place ?? She says ok well I will have to check with your brother and his wife and I'll get back to you. They aren't even invited to next weekend.