I love my kids so much I have an almost 3 yo & 10 month old but find myself raising my voice too often with my 3yo! It's breaking my heart but I can't seem to get her to listen I try 1,2,3 I try time out, but I think most often it's when I'm rushing to get something done and she isn't co-operating like running away when I try to get her dressed or do her hair, trying to get everyone in the car, or snapping when I've repeatedly asked her to play gently with baby and she hurts her sometimes it even appears to be on purpose. She can be beautiful and sweet it's not like I'm yelling all day but I feel like even doing it once is too much. Hubby doesn't help much with any of this just tells me to stop yelling which makes me feel like the 'bad' parent as he doesn't do any disciplining or saying no to anything. So I guess I'm after ways I can stop raising my voice with her but keep her and the baby safe, ideas on making the time to get dressed and ready for the day, into the car and cooking dinner easier and have a calmer peaceful time with my kids?
How can I stop raising my voice with kids and have a calmer household
How can I stop raising my voice with kids and have a calmer household
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I yell a lot too and it's made my son start yelling and squealing, I hate it. so I started doing time out and that works for us. He is two so gets two mins in time out. If he gets up off the spot the two mins starts again. Now I just have to threaten time out and he does what he is told.
Good luck.
It's hard to stop yelling! You can get your point across without doing it though. You can find a deeper tone of voice that's not a yell will help (takes some practice). Also I find being proactive, rather than reactive really helps. I try and set things up for success. I get the kids involved in the cooking process (baby in the high chair with some plastic utensils). The three year old can fetch, carry etc they generally love to help. Otherwise you can cook when they are in bed so you can just reheat the next evening. Getting dressed with little ones you could do in the one room so you can be dressing the baby while praising the older one for dressing herself. Kids love being praised and if you catch them being good and praise them it really can turn things around.
Talk to your community health Centre about triple p. It's great. Google Triple P and check out there website