So, basically, there is a pre-teen child who has really only 1 option of highschool coming up, and has flat out refused to go! We have no idea how to get them to be on board, it's a wonderful school and should feel very honoured to be a part of it. They are totally into sports and music and the school has excellent programs for those.
We believe that it's an "afraid of change" but it will work out in their favour and everyone else's involved (split family) it was never.on our radar (private, expensive school) until their behaviour changed for the worse recently and current school believes also that it's a great option.
What I'm asking really is how do we get them to be in board ready for the interviews?? TIA
Highschool option
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Take them to the school and have a look around
I think the FB comments are a bit harsh on this topic. I agree that the parents are the ones to be making those decisions, but why the hard-ass approach by so many people commenting?! I think if you have that us-against-them approach all the time, they will resent you and rebel against you. My children are younger than your pre-teen, but I have certainly learned that getting them on board and gaining their cooperation isn't equal to being a soft, pushover parent. It's about building strong relationships with your children, and building their confidence and trust in your decisions. I'd imagine it's hard to teach a pre-teen about the 'bigger picture', but perhaps you can tell her some stories about the hard things you had to do when you were young, and how much it paid off. I know my daughter always feels better about going through something tough when she knows that I've been in a similar situation when I was her age. If you can, perhaps do a lot of one-on-one things with her - if you're on really good terms and have bonded a lot recently (movies, cafe dates, playing board games, doing some outdoor stuff together, whatever), she's more likely to think positively about your suggestions.