Ive recently seperated from my ex 2 months ago. My ex started a new relationship before id even left and has now moved over an hour away. My almost 5 year old who has always been a relatively well behaved child and rather close to jer father has now developed some bad behavioural issues with me and im now starting to think its due to the split and is feeling abandoned by her father. She spends every second weekend with him and her brother which im now changing to one night every week. She doesnt feel she can ask her dad for anything and is seeming almost scared to upset him which is making me think shes scared if she does her father will back away from her even more. I try talking with her which she does but i know she feels it will just cause conflict and wishes her father and i would het back together. Im in the process of seeking mediation. My question is how do i go about getting her in to see a child psychologist to help her process her feelings over the change in her life as she not in school yet and dont really know how or where to start? My heart is breaking for her.
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start with your GP, they can refer you to relevant services in your area. You could also try contacting relationships australia as they are a wealth of knowledge.
Doesn't it break your heart? My daughter worships her dad but she only sees him once a fortnight and he never calls her in between. I took her to our GP and got a mental health plan done. If she is in school, ask them as well, they might be able to point you in the right direction. I would also say try Relationships Australia, that is where I went when my relationship broke down and they were fantastic. Just show her lots of love. Your daughter will be lashing out at you because you are there and you are safe. Good luck.
I'm going through the exact same with my boy the same age, dad only calls or is interested when he has an audience to perform his dad role in front of. Otherwise he doesn't contact at all but blames me as I'm insisting on supervised visits until he clears a drug test - perfect opportunity to pass the buck. In my case it's been 5mths, I think you changing to one night a week is a very good idea, my son responded really well with a visual calendar (from officeworks, its wipe able so I'd just fill it out each month and cross off days as they go with a smiley face on the daddy day, could also do an emblimem for days he calls) if I was you I would email the father, explain your concerns and suggest that he Skypes twice a week on the same day as well as the visit and ask for him input - if you can get a paper trail of everything like this it will prove in court that she was your main priority. I also take my son to see a councillor at the local domestic violence service, it's free and they're amazing. Good luck x