I'm really struggling at the moment and would love some advice from all the great IMs out there.
I have a 2 year old boy and I feel like all I'm doing is yelling, feeling angry and trying to disapline all the time. He tantrums all the time over every little thing, he runs away constantly if we try and take him any where and hits people and throws things all the time. I don't know what to do. I want to be a great mum and like all of us have wanted that since he was born. I just cry yell and want to sleep all the time. I feel like a failure and feel like my child is the only one like this. He communicates a lot but in his own language with limited understandable words, which also makes it hard, we have had this checked and everything seemed fine (hearing development speech etc) I understand tantrums are a healthy part of being a toddler but it seems my little boy is angry all the time. Please help.
Help with toddler tantrums and behavior
Help with toddler tantrums and behavior
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My 3.5 year old was like that, still is occasionally (luckily my 20 month old is the opposite and has the cutest little tantrums that I can't help but smile at). Consistency and time is your best options of this time coming to an end. My son also likes routine and alone time with me, I run him out of energy anytime I can take him to the park, outside or just get hi sitting and consintrating on certain task (arts and crafts, reading, toys). Find ways to calm him to, we do ten deep breaths and repeat until he can become calmer before he starts any of his tantrums or nastiness (sorry I couldn't think of a better word for it). As his speech progresses and his independence comes through more he will settle down. You aren't the first mum to go through this and wont be the last you aren't doing anything wrong and are a good mum. Also time out for you when you start feeling frustration, children pick up on our feelings so if you are angry (which is easy with a toddler) they become grumpier. Also if these feelings you are feeling have been lasting for a little while head to the doctor yourself and let them know, there could be more behind you feeling this way other than the usual toddler stage
Have also reposted on the facebook page and hope it helps. Big hugs mumma - you're not alone in this!! x