Hi Ims,
Im not quite sure where to start, im a single mummy I have 2 kids, 7 and 4 , one child is asd and adhd. and my 4 year old is just well strong willed. recently there father has come back into there lives, their behaviour has gotten out of control, I understand that the change is HUGE but I honestly need some help, my son has withdrawn from the family choosing to hide and meltdown at any idea of helping out around the house, my daughter fights everything I say, and there are times where they seem to just feed off each others behaviours when this happens it is extremely difficult to regain control, and usually ends up with me yelling the house down ( which I hate) we have done behaviour reward charts, pocket money social stories and visual aides, im not sure where to turn , ive previously done triple p, and read 123 magic I need life to get a bit easier, I work full time and I hate that the few hours of a night I have with my kids is spent really not enjoying each others company. . please help
help please
help please
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Parenthood Guilt, Behaviour, Aspergers & Autism
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Im mummy to a child with ASD myself. It's hard to do but I would look at my own stress levels first. If I'm stressed it creates a cycle of negativity (I don't deal with things as I should etc). Also if your son isn't receiving support from services that are specifically designed to support you at home set those up. There seems to be an attitude in this country that the only supports our kids need are at school and the parents have to do it alone! So set up an appointment for psychologist or who ever it is you think will support you and your child the best. The triple p parenting program is excellent (and evidence based) I'm not as familiar with the other program so refresh your knowledge. Having dad come back into their lives could very well be causing stress for everyone and kids show stress in different ways. Good luck