I apologise for the length imperfect Mummas... Just need to know I'm not alone:
Ok, so we are due for bub #2 on Thursday (scheduled c section). My oldest is only 14 months old. I am very well aware of how busy and crazy and hectic things will be but I am a positive person and just keep telling myself that as hard as things will get, it won't be forever (hopefully hehe).
So I am being offered a lot of help, which I am happy to take if needed, but feel like people are forcing themselves onto me. I have an incredibly supportive partner who is taking time off work to help out. Which I feel is all I'll need at this stage but ppl just keep forcing their way into things.
I am not someone to ask for help unless I'm REALLY and I mean REALLY struggling, and at this stage I haven't been in that position.
I suppose I am wondering if ppl have been in this situation before and have managed ok with just the support of your partner? He is fantastic around the house and with our little girl.... Couldn't have asked for a better man :)
And also, we are moving away from family early next year (Jan/Feb) for work purposes so we'll be doing things on our own anyway.
Sorry for the novel :) but TIA for any responses .... I understand it could be the opposite (no family what so ever) but this is just how I feel :)
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I did it all without family or a partner so I'm sure you'll be able to handle it the 2 of you. It's nice to get help even when you don't feel you need it, might be nice to have a night off just the two of you etc. It definitely helps been a positive person ! :)
If you mean in terms of having a C-section and also looking after your 14month old... I will be honest and say it was the hardest few weeks of my life when I wasn't able to do the things I normally would have for my eldest daughter and all she wanted was Mummy. I couldn't get her in & out of her cot, I couldn't lift her into her high chair, I couldn't put her on her change table, I couldn't lift her to put her in the bath. I found other ways when no-one was around to help out such as lying down to have a sleep in my bed with her while newborn was asleep in bassinet, showering with her, changing her on the couch and I got hubby to buy a high chair seat from k-mart so I could pop it on the floor and have picnics with her... It was really hard as I changed absolutely everything up on her.
If you mean in terms of having two kids close together... there will be a time of adjustment but it wont take long. You sound like you have all the support you need in your hubby. Maybe if others really want to help ask them to cook you a meal, or hang out your washing or get it back in those sorts of things. It is challenging and some days are worse than others, but some days will be full of so much love and happiness you never thought it would have been possible xox