Hi everyone,
Im 33 years old and I have never in my life liked myself. I hate the way I look, my body is a mess and I never feel like I am enough for anyone or anything including my husband and children.
It is a daily struggle and as I get older I am finding that it's only getting worse. I hate looking in the mirror and usually cry when I do.
I've tried many different things to discover some sort of self love but nothing works.
So I guess my question is how do you find an appreciation for yourself?
Hating Myself
Hating Myself
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I would suggest going to your GP and having a really good chat about how you are feeling and getting a referral for a psychologist who can take you through cognitive behaviour therapy. It is the kind of therapy that teaches you to challenge your thoughts. It is not a quick fix and takes a lot of practice. You have to be prepared to challenge your thoughts and work it every day. It can take a number of sessions to get the benefit. Also start reading books etc on people who have genuinely scarred bodies. Eg those who were badly badly burnt, lost limbs etc.
Oh sweet, I couldn't not reply. I felt the same way - self loathing, useless, less than everybody else and just different to everyone and broken/irredeperable. I want to let you know that there is hope, and that you can feel differently. I started with Acceptance and Committment stuff and also looked in to self compassion. Brene Brown does some brilliant work on this stuff and she is on YouTube with her Ted Talks. Also, Mind Spot clinic has a great online prigram that helped me challenge some of the beliefs that I held about myself. Now, I do still struggle with depression and anxiety, but I can encompass love for all of myself. I don't detest the bad parts, i accept that they are there but I also look at the good parts x