Recently I had my second child and after 6 weeks I bounced back into my pre pregnancy body. I have good genetics and honestly don't have to try very hard to loose weight, I eat right and have always been petite.
Nearly every person I see comments on my quick weight loss in a negative way. I get asked it I'm eating anything or if I'm unwell. Most of my life I have always had negative comments about my weight, even being told I must have an eating disorder because I am so skinny. I couldn't even go to the bathroom after a meal growing up without my best friends mum asking me if I was bulimic.
I find if you are thinner it's considered less mean to have comments made about your body. I can't even have a "fat day" without being laughed at and told I'm being stupid. I get called a "lucky bitch" and have been told
"gosh I hate girls like you, it's not fair".
How do people handle outspoken comments about their body shape/weight?. Either end of the scale replies welcomed because I know we all get it :)
TIA xx
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I'm a smaller build and I am HAPPY with my body I have energy to run and play with my kids yes I get comments too but it's generally because of jealously, I don't care because it's my body and I feel confident in it, And I have to work hard to eat right and excercise so it's not EASY being in shape, your very lucky it comes naturally we all have different make ups as well don't loose sleep over it just shrug it off it's probably because they aren't happy in there skin :)
Appreciate the 'lucky bitch' comments! They are compliments not insults :) when someone says I'm a lucky bitch for whatever reason that's GREAT! And the hate one it's a term that means I'M JEALOUS! It's not an insult. People want what you have :)
Nothing worse as a big girl who struggles with my weight hearing someone who is size 8 declaring they are fat, or feel fat. Basically what I hear is 'your MASSIVE'. I know that's not what is meant but at the time that's what I hear.
As a fellow skinny girl I have learnt not to comment about my weight in front of others. I too have "fat days" where my tummy is bloated or my pants are too tight, I just don't say anything as I am a lot thinner then most people (size 8) and I know it really upsets my friends and family close to me as they would love to be my size. I learnt this when my friend who is a size 6 was saying how fat she felt in her dress, it made me feel like i must be fat so I can only imagine how others feel when I make comments. I think you can be proud of your weight, and also have days where you are unhappy with it without "rubbing it in peoples faces". I do think it's harsh when people assume you have an eating disorder etc. I have a cousin who is like this, she likes literally anorexic...she looks sick, but she eats like a horse. People just don't understand, and I think in this day and age it's so common to have an eating disorder that people probably just assume the worst. Try not to let it get to you, just make a comment that you are very healthy and have a fast metabolism. etc
It's funny isn't it, you get negative comments if you're carrying weight and negative comments if you're petite! We can't win can we! Why do people feel it's appropriate to comment on someone's size, I carry weight and unfortunately have to work hard to try and lose it. I've found as I get older I get less tolerant of such comments and basically tell people it's none of their concern what size I am and mind your own damn business. Usually shuts them up. I actually enjoyed one time when I was pregnant, a girl I didn't like very much commented 'wow, you're huge', I turned to her and politely said 'yes, so are you', that shut her up too!!
Too fat too thin people are gonna have bad things to say either way