Does anyone feel guilty about only having a pigeon pair? Everyone I talk to seems like it's the best thing but I don't,I'm currently 35 Weeks and 3 days with a girl,and also have a 3 year old son. He keeps telling me he wants a brother and a sister and I would have been happy with 2 boys then a girl if it had worked like that but then I get that guilty feeling like what if she had wanted female company. How did you decide on how you felt? If we continued my ideal would be 2 boys,2 girls but financially even now lately has been a little strained which I didn't want! Idk if I'm just more into feeling hormonal but I can't stop thinking about it. Tia!
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You get what you get, you have NO control over what sex the baby you are having is, you will also have no control over what sex babies you have in future. So you have absolutely no reason to feel guilty about what sex the baby is, or what sex you wanted. You could have 4 kids but you have no idea what sex you are going to have so it's pointless planning, it's only going to lead to disappointment. A friend of mine ended up with 5 boys because they kept trying for a girl!
What I'm trying to say in my sleep deprived state is, plan for the number of children but not the sex which you have no control over. Don't feel guilty for something that isn't in your control (it's like feeling guilty for a car accident you were not involved in).
Me nd hubby have 3 kids eldest is a girl them two boys. After our first boy hubby was happy with the two but I didn't feel complete and felt we needed a 3 rd it took a lot of talking into but we decided on the 3 rd he is now 4.5
Mths and our little family defiantly feels complete, Iam so greatfull hubby supported and understood my reasons for wanting one more. Now Iam alittle more prepared with knowing he is our last and can mentally prepare myself for our lives to change to the next fase of life. It's hard to examine but sometimes you just know when ur done with kids and when ur not
Hi, I have a girl who is 3 and a boy who is 17 months, so have the pidgeon pair. I have a sister and sometimes feel sad that my little girl won't have a sister to bond with but I always wanted a brother growing up!! So in that way I am happy they get to experience that brother/sister bond! It is really lovely having one of each as they are so different but some friends have the pidgeon pair and go on to have a third but I honestly felt when my youngest was born that I was complete. It is different for everyone and my feeling of being complete was that I had difficult pregnancies and bad pnd, but for others thus is not their experience. You will know once bubs is here what's right for you in your heart.
It doesn't really matter what gender your children turn out to be... For the record you could still end up with a boy (it's not 100 % at ultrasound) & even if you did end up with two boys there's no guarantee they'll be close... I'm currently pregnant with my third after 2 boys & i don't know if we'll be done or have more. You can only go by how you feel at the time I suppose... Enjoy the last little bit of your pregnancy :)