I am suffering from overwhelming guilt and stress at applying for full time work. My children are 8 and 6, this is not my choice. I am being pressured by my husband to go full time. I currently work 3 days a week. We have no family to fall back on for help. Why can't he see that it's all good when they are healthy but when they are sick I can't be calling into work sick for days on end. What can I do to make him see my perspective?
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I would just be saying no... It is your life too :)
Tell him if the kids are sick then he needs to be prepared to take leave to look after them for his equal share and that he needs to share house work etc more.
Hmm. If you really need the extra money I can see where he is coming from asking you to go back to work. With your kids been school age it really is a luxury to continue been a stay at home mum. If you are really keen to stay home (and he's just worried about the money) maybe look into work you can do from home, or really invest time and ways to save money. Walk instead of taking car, turn lights off when not needed sell things on ebay, babysit other peoples kids etc. otherwise maybe look at trying to find work that is understanding of working mums, a lot of mums work and a lot of business's have to deal with them taking days of for kids been sick etc. If he is helping with the kids and with chores and making dinner I don't see why you can't go to work too. I think it's also important for women to have their own money.
I think you need to decide what you want & negotiate with your husband. Money isnt everything for everybody & its possible to support your family on part time & budget & enjoy a good balance & quality of life. It sounds like that is what you are happy doing & what you want to do. Maybe your husband sees it differently. But talk it through with him & make a plan together. dont let him dictate to you what you have to do & dont waste a moment regretting what youre doing, life is too short.