Of course I'm not the only one feeling like this, but how do you shake it? From the outside I have the perfect life. Fantastic hubby, 2 beautiful young kids, our dream house and hubby and I have good jobs, nothing I should complain about. I also know we have it good, but everyday in my life is the same. I feel like I just go through the motions everyday. By the time i get up, feed kids, clean house, feed kids, play with kids, feed kids, go to work, come home and go to bed to try and get enough sleep to do it all again tomorrow. Because of our new house we don't have the spare funds to go out and do anything. Pretty sure my hubby is feeling the same as he works the opposite shift. How do other families shake the 'Groundhog Day ' feeling of being an adult with responsibilities?
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You make an effort to make things special! You put the kids to bed and have a date night, you know candles etc. You have a movie night, microwave popcorn etc. you make an effort, which btw even if you have disposable income you need to make anyway. You send your kids to the grandparents for the night and have sex in every room of the house! And if the house is taking this big a toll on your life you ask yourselves is it really important to have a house? Could you buy something cheaper and smaller and be happier or can you rent. Working opposite shifts to me doesn't seem sustainable in the long term
I was the same but it is ending in seperation and I would say divorce. Make time, forget the house work and make memories and good times so you don't end up in tears as you write this full of regrets.
You've got the 'now everything is perfect why aren't I happy' problem. We spend our whole lives striving for the things we think will make us happy - husband, kids, job, house - and if your lucky enough to get them u realise there's still something missing! Ask yourself what this is trying to tell u - do u need a deeper meaning, something spiritual (doesn't have to be 'religion'), giving back to the community, meditation, a charity etc Material things are fleeting : )