Follow up of " help I dont like my nephew! "
Wow what a mixed response I got from my post! Firstly to those who had the attitude of me being nasty or bitchy or said that I had a perfect child.. Just want to say that not once did I even suggest that my child was perfect nor did I say that I hated my nephew.. disliking someone is not the same as hating so please do not read into it. And just so you are aware I have other children and I have experienced a " threenager" or a horrible three year old.. but they have also been raised with manners and propper discipline, so if I put a few peoples nose out of joint just because I expect my child to have manners and be taught how to play without being a rude individual or that I make damn sure that my kid is respectful of peoples things ETC than I wont apologize for not liking what my nephew does nor will I put up with my nephew or my mum thinking that its ok to behave like he does.
Im not a parent that thinks to myself " oh its the age" im a parent that thinks yes its the age but they will not be getting away with it. A child learns from their parents as a lot of you say that they do.. So if that makes me a " perfect parent" than I will happily wear that with pride.
And just one more thing.. I thought this place was here for us ladies to ask for advice? Not be subjected to nasty remarks! It makes me question the whole " sisterhood" thing and whether its worth actually coming on here to get something off my chest and see what others have to say instead of " if you were my sister Id disown you" how bitchy of you.. and downright rude!. Thankyou to those who actually gave me advice instead of seeing me as a nasty Aunty or that I am Just being a perfect do good person!... which I am not!.
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I agree with what you have written here: I didn't respond to your original post as I felt I really didn't know enough about the situation to contribute helpful advice. If you can't be helpful, scroll on!
It's a shame that some of the women on here forget what this online community is all about. I'm sorry you were made to feel crappy from all the negative comments. I didn't comment on your original post as I didn't have any advice but I think if anyone doesn't like what they have read they just need to keep scrolling and don't make it your concern to voice your judgements and negative opinions on already vulnerable/emotional women. Chin up IM, I hope you can have an open discussion with your sister and sort your problem out.
I completely agree with you. Some children have no respect or manners and yes, it usually comes from their parents and those who care for them ie your mother.
Age to a point can be to blame, however, if the child is not made to realise their actions are not acceptable, they will only get worse.
I too didn't comment on your original post, mainly because of the personal attacks that were being made and didnt want to inflame the situation even more.
Good on you for having concern for your own children and your nephew. If your mother isnt going to take it seriously, you may have to just go with the stance that at your house he goes by your rules and you enforce them if need be. If the others get offended, you may be better off meeting them at a park or similar for a while until he learns some manners.
Best of luck with the situation and please do not think all the women on here are nasty.
I also didn't reply to your original but 100% agree with you - plenty of parents now seem simply too lazy to teach their kids how to behave. It's ridiculous!