IM sisterhood, I need some advice.
I was the first in my friendship group to have kids- I had 2 daughters before anyone else had 1... Or even thought about kids.
I have always invited my girlfriends to special events for the kids like birthdays, christenings & to catch ups etc.
now my friends are married and having babies they don't seem to have the time for us.
My girls are 3&5, lovely behavior etc so taking them places is a breeze.
But these friends have christenings & birthday celebrations (booked out a club function room, HUGE do etc) and only one person gets invited from our group.
I feel rejected. I feel stupid even saying this but I do.
It upsets me. Mainly because this person/s are still really good friends- always in touch, always seem to care etc. but when events happen I don't know- most of us miss out.
I want to be there for their little ones big milestone things. I believe it takes a village to raise children & all of that.
They have a HUGE family on both sides so it seems most of the invited peeps are family. But still. We don't even get a msg or email to say "we're having a party/christening and I'd so love you to be there but with all the family we just can't afford to have friends there too. I hope you understand" or similar, we just see pics on fb of the event (after its happened) and it leaves me feeling crushed inside.
How have other IM's handled situations like this?
Feeling rejected by friends
Feeling rejected by friends
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Don't feel rejected your being slightly over sensitive and unrealistic.
If I had to email, message or whatever every friend who doesn't get an invite to my kids celebration or family member for that matter it would be ridiculous! I come from a large family and not even everyone from the family gets invited or told lol
Also I suspect most of my friends would say why the eff are you messaging me to tell me I'm not on the invite list!!! lol
It's just life, you need to have enough confidence in yourself to know that it's not a judgement but you also need to know that your friends also have other lives too. Would you be crushed if one of your friends went out to dinner with someone you didn't know?
I think you had daydreamed about doing all these events with your friends so when you weren't included it hurt more.
I think a healthy way to be is not assume or expect to be invited and surprised if you do.