Hi, I'm fairly nervous in writing this. My partner is in defence, I'm expecting in jan. we've moved to a new city, I expected it to be easier it isn't. The local mums don't seem interested in wanting to meet up or make friends, I feel very isolated and feel like internet world is my only way to connect with others. I used to work full time and now I spend my days at home. Our neighbour from upstairs came to introduce herself only to tell us that our son was too loud in the yard and to be honest he is very loud. Has no concept of inside voice or toning it down. Today after having the day from hell her comments pushed me over he edge, I don't feel comfortable in my own home. The doctor from our previous practice has said in his notes he is concerned with his behaviour and speech. Having to deal with health issues this pregnancy, trying to make a friend. Being on a waiting list for child care I feel let down. I feel like I've let my child down, let my partner down. He found me in the shower crying hard, Defence policy has stuffed our move, I feel like I'm invisible and loosing myself. I want a friend to ask me how I'm going one day I don't want to have to be the one to constantly ask. I guess at the end of my long whinge I do have a wonderful partner that's an amazing step father. Puts up with anything life throws at him and is strong. I am lucky but I just need a friend and some adult time a couple of hours once in a blue moon and just to feel like my self again. If someone would be willing to meet up for a play date with my rambunctious 3 nearly 4 year old. I would appreciate it. Sorry for the ramble just feeling like I need a map to get out of this lost head space.
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Which base? I have sisters in pucka and canberra
And good friends in darwin
Sydney, kuttabul he's in the navy.
They are army but will throw hayley this way she may know how to connect you with the good mums
Thank you, it's a bit hard at the moment ?
Oh hun, i could've written this! My we are also a defence family, Army though. Hubby has been in for just over 15 years. I feel you! I've been with my hubby since I was 13yo & we have 4 kiddies 3, 7, 10 & 13. Since I first met him that's all he wanted to do & I 110% supported that. God if only I had of known what it'd be like back then! It's so mentally draining! No friends, no family, no one to talk to exept the bloody kids! I'd kill for an adult conversation lol... I've tried so hard to make friends, join play groups, mothers groups ect... They're all so bitchy! One of the things I've learned over the years is to keep my hubby's rank a secret to the people I meet, they are either intimidated or dosnt wanna talk to you for some reason. Think that you think you're better than them or vice versa! I DO NOT wear his God dam rank!! & they shouldn't either! Anyways, just wanted to let you know that you are definitely NOT alone hun. All the best ?
I know what you mean, I just wish there was more of a sense of community. It's almost if you don't fit the ideal mould then you're not considered in. ? in the end I guess this is what happens I won't be able to build up my career too much which isn't great but I have a trade I can travel with. It's bloody hard.
My hubby is in the Navy so I completely understand where you're coming from. I wish I lived closer. We are currently posted overseas and are due home at the end of next year. I have three children, my youngest is three and my oldest is almost 12. We have no idea where we'll be moving to next, although I'm hoping to go back to our home. It is so hard when you're away from everyone you know. A lot of people don't understand how hard It is and how lonely you get. I just wanted to let you know you're not alone. Once your little one starts kindy you'll meet loads of new friends. You'll probably also find yourself busy with playdates. My kids have a better social life than I do. Big hugs and wishing you all the best with the pregnancy. Xo