Please tell me im not alone!!!
My son is going through a major tantrum throwing stage!! He's almost 3 I am just so lost at the moment and i dont know how to deal with it anymore sometimes i feel like running away... lately he just screams at me constantly and kicks and pulls on my clothing and tries to bite me and pull my hair. And its not like certain parts of the day its been all day everyday...and i feel like i have no help because my partner works away as he is a painter and when he is home hes with his friend or just wants to relax. I suffer anxiety and i have to take medication but i still suffer from major stress. Im supposed to be studying online and i am so far behind and my house is always messy lately i just have no motivation. The other day i went to go shopping with my son and he threw himself on the ground and carried on before we even got in the shop so i just left, went to my mothers and when she asked me what was wrong i just bawled my eyes out. I think im going crazy...i just need some reassurance is all thanks.
Feeling lost and confused
Feeling lost and confused
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First of all - HUGS!!!!! This is a frustrating stage and it would take patience of a saint to not lose it every now and then.
Re: tantrums. This age is a period of rapid neural growth and often still limited ability to communicate feelings. Most kids act out when they feel unheard, overwhelmed, rushed, hungry, tired or out of control and they are unable to use their words to tell you so. The problem is normally that adults expect adult behaviour from children. Figure out the source of the tantrums and you will be able to diffuse most of the situations.
Slow down, tell your LO what's going to happen from day-to-day so he is able to cope with transitions a bit better. Give him 5 minute warnings before things happen ("Hey mate, dinner is nearly ready so in 5 minutes we're going to pack up your toys and go wash our hands." Then go back in 5 minutes, help him pack up). Give him choices about things where possible ("Want to wear the red shirt or the blue shirt today?". Some kids find shopping centres overwhelming with lots of people and fluorescent lights etc so you might find
Can your mum take him for an hour or so a couple of times a week so that you can decompress? And ask hubby to step up when he gets home. Parenthood is 24/7 and you don't get days off.
*hug* I think all my kids had tantrums...but the youngest pulled hers off at such a scale and gusto it really overshadows any hissy fit they may have chucked..... you are not alone. And it will end.
The DVD and book magic 1-2-3 is amazing. My youngest is a full blown room wrecker holes in plaster and all....they recently diagnosed her with bipolar but it still helped us get through these years til she was.
Order the shopping online. Plan it out once a week until you have him and your study back on track.
Trampoline...those round ones with nets look awesome...do they have a zipper omg if they have a zipper you could use a zip tie and leave him in there....Opps I didn't actually type that did I...
You are so not alone!! It starts off as Terrible Twos, moves on to Traumatic Threes, and ends with "For F*** Sake Fours lol. After that apparently it gets "easier". I have no advice but just want to give you a big hug and tell you that you're definitely not alone xx